People Online Shared The Most Important Red Flags To Watch Out For When Dating
Everyone has heard about “red flags”– the term used to describe behavior that might indicate someone is manipulative or toxic. But, it’s not always easy to spot them in the moment.
While going on dates, people can become “love blind.” And while they try to look for the good in people, they might also miss some seriously questionable qualities in potential partners.
If you are someone that struggles with this, worry no more. The newest Ask Reddit thread may be perfect for you.
There, people shared the most important red flags you need to watch out for while dating someone new.
“Masking”
“Do they put on a personality for different people?” asked @DisposableMale76.
If you notice your date changing their demeanor, behavior, or general vibe while around different groups of people, this is likely a red flag.
Who is to say that they are not doing the same around you? Plus, if they are, it can be nearly impossible to know who you are really getting involved with.
Being Rude To Service Workers
NDABCREATIVITY – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purpose only, not the actual person
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Most people who have worked in the restaurant industry know that it can be an incredibly humbling experience. Rude and careless customers are a dime a dozen.
So, if your date treats restaurant staff– or any service worker– rudely, you will be able to see a bit more of their true colors.
Plus, you can begin to question who else they treat badly in their life and if that could ever become you.
Lacking Boundaries
“Wanting one hundred percent of your attention and time,” commented @ScarlettWilson13.
While this might seem endearing or even like a sweet “honeymoon phase” obsession, it can actually lead to highly toxic relationships.
These people might expect you to isolate yourself from friends, family, and possibly even activities that you personally loved doing.
But, you should never be forced to revolve your life around someone and give up healthy outside interactions.
“Love Bombing”
“When you first start dating, and they say ‘I love you’ within the first week, that’s a red flag,” said @YourAveragePeep1109.
I could not have said it better myself. This behavior, known as “love bombing,” is often used to essentially butter someone up with attention or affection.
Then, once you fall for the person, they usually use the love bombing to influence or manipulate you.
So, while there is a chance that “true love” could happen in a week, it is best just to avoid anyone who tries to immediately smother you with intense affection.
Other Important Flags To Note
Reddit users also advised singles to watch out for bad listening skills, cleanliness, jealousy, and being too self-obsessed.
These traits will likely inform how the person truly acts in a full-fledged romantic relationship. So, if you are unsatisfied, it is better to cut ties sooner than later.
And to read the complete Reddit thread, visit the link here.
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