Her Parents Helped Her Buy A Townhouse And Stipulated That No One Was Allowed To Move In Or Stay There When She Wasn’t Home, But Her Boyfriend Just Does Not Understand The Rule
This woman recently accomplished one of the largest milestones in her life– she purchased her first townhouse.
However, buying any kind of home– whether that be a house, condo, or townhouse– is no easy feat for someone to do all by themselves.
So, she was lucky enough that her parents were willing to assist her with the down payment. After her parents financially contributed, though, they did lay out some guidelines that they expected her to abide by.
One of her parents’ requests was that no one moves into the house with her. Moreover, no one should be allowed to hang out at her townhouse while she is not home.
And even though some young adults might have found an issue with these two requests, she actually entirely understood her parents’ perspective.
“I feel like these are completely fair requests and things that I would actually agree with even if I didn’t owe my parents money,” she revealed.
Aside from her own view of the rule, though, the townhouse– and no one being allowed to move in– has recently presented her romantic relationship with a unique issue.
For context, she has a boyfriend who she has been dating for two years. And over the two years, she and her boyfriend have gotten quite serious– even though their relationship has been on the rocks lately due to a separate issue, according to her.
Anyway, her boyfriend usually spends about three nights a week at her townhouse. And just a few nights ago, she asked her boyfriend if he wanted to sleep over again.
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Well, at that point, she was also forced to remind her boyfriend that if he wanted to stay, he would have had to wake up and leave at about 4:00 a.m. when she went to work.
Her reminder kind of upset her boyfriend, though, and he ended up asking why he could not just stay at her townhouse and sleep in until she got off of work.
So, she reiterated her parents’ expectations that no one lives in or stays at the townhouse while she is gone, but her boyfriend actually got really angry at her.
“My boyfriend said that he felt hurt that he did not get a say in any of these guidelines before I moved out and that he feels excluded,” she recalled.
To be frank, though, she did not really understand why her boyfriend felt like he had any say in the first place– and she honestly let him know why.
First, she pointed out that her boyfriend did not exactly contribute any money to her home purchase. Plus, his name was not even on the title.
“So, I have a hard time grasping why he would feel that he would get any say in what happens in my home,” she noted.
On top of that, she also told her boyfriend that she does not dictate what he can and cannot allow in his own home. In turn, she had no clue why he felt he was entitled to help make decisions at her house.
Finally, she also thinks that she should not move in with a man until she is engaged to him. And apparently, that is a personal belief she had expressed to her boyfriend several times before this argument.
So, she was quite confused about where her boyfriend misunderstood their arrangement and believed she had a right to put him in his place after he got angry.
At the same time, though, she has been reflecting on the situation and feels a bit bad for pointing out her boyfriend’s lack of financial contributions and ownership title.
So now, she has been left wondering if refusing to let her boyfriend stay at her townhouse is an unreasonable or jerky thing to do.
Do you think she and her parents’ expectations of the townhouse are reasonable? If her boyfriend has previously abided by the rules, why do you think he is voicing his anger about them now? Did she have a right to point out her boyfriend’s lack of financial contribution and ownership or not? If you were in her shoes, what would you have done?
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