She Just Got Married A Month Ago, But Her Sister-In-Law Still Lives With Her, And Her Husband Refuses To Make Any Progress Toward Moving His Sister Out, So She Gave Him An Ultimatum That If His Sister Doesn’t Move Out, She Will
This thirty-four-year-old woman and her husband, Harry, just got married last month. But, since early this year, they have been dealing with a stalemate in their relationship that is now starting to impact their new marriage.
Apparently, back in February, Harry’s younger sister Sally, who is twenty-five, moved in with them. And from the start, she was not comfortable with the new living arrangement.
“I am someone who really needs personal space. I had been living alone for a long time before I moved in with Harry in January of 2022,” she explained.
Nonetheless, Harry claimed that he just could not ask Sally to move into a different place since his sister was young, finding her footing in a new job, and had issues living with roommates in the past.
Her husband also felt “responsible” for his sister since his parents lived in a different city and believed Sally was too young to live alone in a big city anyway– despite earning a stable income.
So, she ended up caving and told her husband– who was still her boyfriend at the time– that they could give Sally six months.
By August of 2022, though, once Sally’s six months of living at her place were up, Harry had a different plan. Apparently, he claimed they should just get married first before telling his sister she had to move out.
“Otherwise, there would be a lot of family drama, and I would be seen in a bad light,” she recalled Harry telling her.
In turn, she ultimately agreed, and they have since gone through with tying the knot. Despite being married for a month now, though, Harry still has not spoken to his sister or the rest of his family about Sally moving out.
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Recently, he even told her that the whole process would “take more time.” But quite frankly, she sees absolutely no reason why they have to delay the inevitable or why they cannot at least make a concrete plan with a move-out date.
Sally has also vaguely mentioned wanting to start a business at some point in the future– which would force Harry’s sister to move to another city.
So, it appears that her husband is just hoping Sally will go through with the business plan soon. That way, the problem will essentially solve itself.
But, in the meantime, there are a plethora of issues that are seriously getting under her skin. First of all, she believes that Sally does not really appreciate their hospitality.
In fact, Harry’s sister reportedly knows how uncomfortable she is with their current living arrangement.
But Sally still apparently comes off as a really spoiled child who always throws tantrums to get her way.
On top of that, her husband does not really understand her perspective on the situation at all. Instead, he has actually accused her of not being “supportive of the family.”
So, she honestly feels like she was “taken for a ride” and basically just manipulated by Harry.
“While I care for Sally, I need my personal boundaries to be respected. I need my me time,” she vented.
She also wants to have some couple’s time and believes that it is essential to developing a strong foundation for their marriage– even if no one else “seems to care” about that.
So, as a last resort effort, after one month of marriage, she told Harry that she would be moving out of their apartment unless Sally did. She simply cannot fathom any other way out of this situation.
At the same time, though, she realizes that it has only been one month of being husband and wife– yet she feels like by giving that ultimatum, she is “bailing out” after their very first disagreement.
In turn, she has now been left wondering if threatening to move out of their apartment was the right thing to do or if she is actually just acting like a jerk.
Why do you think Harry refuses to speak with Sally or his family about a move-out date? Is twenty-five years old really too young for Sally to live on her own? Is it understandable why she wants to live with only her husband, especially after just getting married? If you were in her shoes, how would you handle this situation?
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