If You Want To Live Your Life To The Fullest, You Have To Accept These 5 Uncomfortable Truths
We Need The Bad In Life To Appreciate All The Good
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Life can be exhilarating, inspiring, peaceful, and joyous. But it can also be messy, chaotic, complicated, and just plain uncomfortable.
While the latter may not sound all too pleasant, we have to remember that without the “bad,” we would never even be able to recognize or appreciate the “good.”
The Sooner We Can Accept The Uncomfortable Parts, The Sooner We Can Live Life To The Fullest
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Balance is just a part of our human existence. And the sooner we can accept the messy and uncomfortable part of life, the sooner we can start living our lives to the fullest.
These Are 5 Uncomfortable Truths You’re Sure To Encounter
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So, here are some inevitable and uncomfortable truths that every single person will encounter at one point or another– and your reminder to just accept them.
1. Falling In Love = Being Vulnerable
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If you have been in (or are currently in) a relationship where you refused to open up, then I hate to break it to you– but you never really fell in love.
In order to truly make the jump and give your whole heart to somebody, there can’t be any red tape. You have to be transparent and willing to reveal all parts of yourself– both good and bad– while trusting that your suitor won’t shatter your heart.
Of Course, There Are No Guarantees That You Won’t Get Hurt
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But that is literally the essence of being vulnerable: or being “susceptible to harm.” So, make the leap and take the risk. Stop letting your fear paralyze you from truly immersing yourself in relationships and opening yourself up to love.
2. Failure Is Inevitable
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You will not fail at everything you do, but you definitely will not succeed 100 percent of the time. And once you accept this fact of life, you will allow a plethora of new opportunities to enter your world.
From the time we were children, we failed. We couldn’t hold our own heads up after birth; then, as toddlers, we fell after taking just a few steps.
But did we let these little slip-ups get us down? Of course not! We just tried and tried again until we eventually mastered walking and went on to sing the alphabet and write our names with number two pencils that looked massive beside our tiny hands.
Don’t Let The Fear Of Failing Control Your Life
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The point is that when you let the fear of failure control your life, you close so many doors for yourself. And you will never get to know what was behind those doors, what you made yourself miss out on.
Instead, relish in failure. Try out new things and fail fantastically. There are really no consequences– you will just learn and grow.
3. Plans Hardly Line Up With Reality
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This fact of life might be a tough pill to swallow. I know it is for me– being that I am addicted to my to-do list and a self-proclaimed “planner” at heart.
What I’ve had to accept, though, is that plans rarely ever pan out exactly how intended. Life ends up “happening” and changing them either drastically or ever so slightly. But regardless, the plan ends up altered by some magnitude.
And Honestly, This Reality Might Be For The Best
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Who’s to say that we know exactly how everything should go? And wouldn’t life become a bit too boring if we could predict and plan everything down to the last detail?
Allow “Life” To Influence Your Plans
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Maybe you will be led on an even better, more exciting path than you could have predicted. And to start changing your mindset about this, you can swap the word “plan” for “goal.” Plans are a bit too concrete– making you think of itineraries, to-do lists, and timelines.
Goals are much more free-flowing, with a million ways of reaching your end destination. So, even if something happens, you may just be embarking on a new journey toward your goal that could be even more exciting than the one you had “planned.”
4. No One Knows What They’re Doing
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You may look on social media and be convinced that everyone has it figured out. Someone you went to high school with may look like they’re “living their best life” abroad; meanwhile, a coworker just announced their third promotion in two years on LinkedIn.
Even closer to home, your parents or siblings might seem like they are killing it at life– with their on-time mortgage payments and rising 401Ks.
Everyone Is Just Figuring It Out As They Go
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Your peers are probably doing the same thing as you– looking at social media and wondering how everyone else is getting through life. And even older people like our parents may have wisdom, but they are still living their first (and only) life.
So, give yourself some grace! And stop looking to everyone else for the “answers.” The truth is, there are no rights or wrongs, and everyone is just as confused as you are.
5. You Can Never Truly Rely On Anyone But Yourself
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You may find an issue with this uncomfortable truth– particularly if you have a long-term partner or spouse or even a best friend who you consider your “ride or die.” It might even seem depressing, too.
Quite frankly, though, accepting this uncomfortable truth is liberating. Do you know how you are always consumed by your own problems, worries, excitements, and dreams? You may even overthink and wonder what other people think about you.
Well, the reality is that everyone is also consumed by their own life struggles and triumphs. So, first of all, you can stop stressing about other people’s opinions of you– because everyone is the main character in their own minds, and you are probably just an audience member. Second, you can also start to embrace this fact and use it to your advantage.
Begin Being Your Own Best Friend And Putting Yourself First
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Get to know your own mind and explore your innermost fears, values, and goals. Remember that while you may have been raised by your family, you are a powerful individual who does not need to look to others for reassurance, motivation, or acceptance.
Instead, nourish your own self-worth and make a commitment to showing up for yourself. Once you do, you will become the hero of your own life: breaking down barriers you never thought you’d cross and embarking on adventures that previously felt impossible alone.
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