This Dad Paid For His Daughter’s Wedding, But He’s Refusing To Do The Same For His Stepdaughter After She Left Him Off The Guest List
This 56-year-old man got married to his 57-year-old wife, named Lisa, 25 years ago. Together, they have a 24-year-old daughter named April, and Lisa has a 33-year-old daughter named Carly, whom she had with her ex-husband, Doug.
Lisa and Doug got divorced when Carly was about 6 because Doug was an addict who wouldn’t get help.
Doug’s addiction also made it impossible for him to stay employed or provide for Lisa and Carly, so that also is why Lisa left.
He ended up meeting Lisa not long after her divorce, and when they did end up getting married, Lisa and Carly moved into the home that he owned.
“I have always seen Carly as my own daughter and always wished to be an additional male figure in her life after her own father, but she always saw me as the man who replaced her dad and took them away from him,” he explained.
“As someone who came from divorced parents myself, I completely understand why she felt this way and respected that she wanted space and boundaries from me, so I never pushed anything beyond just a friendship between us and never forced a father/daughter relationship.”
“With this, I always tried my best to show up to her school events with her mom, paid for college, included her in all of my family’s gatherings, etc.”
After Lisa gave birth to April, though, things went south. Carly grew to be super bitter, and she treated April like she was going to “replace” her in some way. Again, Carly looked at him like he had done the same thing to her dad.
Carly then began bullying April, and it got so bad that he and Lisa got the girls into therapy to try to get through everything.
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Although Carly and April are currently adults, Carly still never misses the opportunity to be nasty to April.
A year ago, April got married, and he put money down for the entire event. Carly then got proposed to not that long ago, and he said that he was happy to pay for her wedding too.
Carly was thrilled that he was footing the bill for her wedding, but then she had the audacity to leave him and April off of her guest list.
“Carly said she didn’t feel close enough with April and me to include us in her big day, which I respect and understand,” he said.
“But she’s not close enough to me to invite me to her wedding, yet she’s okay enough with me to want me to fund the entire event? This is when I told her I won’t be paying for it anymore, and it’s become a huge issue that I’m “treating her like she isn’t my daughter, showing favoritism to April, it’s not fair,” etc.”
“I have done nothing but try to build a relationship with her for 25 years, but she clearly doesn’t want one except for when I’m financially benefiting her. I didn’t mind this when she was a kid because it was my responsibility to provide for her, but I’m just so sick of this now that she’s older.”
He’s left wondering if it’s mean of him to refuse to pay for Carly’s wedding because of how she treats him. What do you think?
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