Her Sister Has Been Lying To Her Therapist About Spending Her Childhood As The Family Scapegoat, But Honestly, Her Sister Was Just So Badly Behaved
Did you or someone else you know grow up with a notoriously bad sibling who tended to ruin many things with their behavior? We can only hope they’ll grow out of it over the years, but unfortunately, some don’t.
One woman’s older sister tortured their family growing up and now tells her therapist she was the ‘scapegoat child.’ Recently, she had to put her in her place.
She’s 28-years-old and has two sisters, Jen and Chloe. Jenn is 28, and Chloe is 17. And honestly, Jen made her and Chloe’s lives absolutely awful.
“She was rude, reckless, a liar, a thief, everything. She refused to go to therapy and fought our mum every step of the way. None of us could have nice things because Jen would ruin them or the moment.”
Jen was especially bad with Chloe growing up and had gotten into intense screaming matches with her. There were many years when their family suffered because of Jen’s behavior and actions.
Not only was Jen terrible with her sisters, but with their parents as well. She’d steal alcohol from them, get brought home by the police some nights, etc. Her parents tried to get Jen to go to therapy to help her, but she refused.
About four years ago, Jen’s life changed when she met her fiancé, Luke, who she describes as a “literal godsend.”
At 24, Jen finally started getting her life together. She finally went to therapy, got a degree and a job, and started trying to make amends with her and Chloe.
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Chloe has remained completely contactless with Jen. On the other hand, she and her mom have been taking the time to reconnect with Jen. On a recent trip out for coffee, Jen started telling her about the things she had been talking to her therapist about.
However, once Jen started going in-depth about some childhood things she told her therapist about, she started believing Jen might be lying to her therapist. Jen told her therapist that she was the ‘scapegoat’ growing up and that anything she or Chloe did wrong was pinned on her.
“This couldn’t be further from the truth,” she explained. “I will admit, at the height of Jen’s spiral, mom did assume everything bad was caused by Jen, but that was because it had been years of the same destructive pattern of behavior.”
When Jen told her that, she couldn’t help but laugh in her face. She told Jen she was glad to hear that she was getting better but that there was no way she was the scapegoat as a child. She was simply terrible when they were growing up.
Jen became very upset and expressed that she was trying to get better. She told Jen that although she appreciates that, she still has to acknowledge how awfully she treated their family in the past.
Jen stormed out of the coffee shop and later sent a text to their family saying that she would not continue being disrespected and that it took her years to uncover their “family dynamic.”
However, she believes the family dynamic Jen came up with is a total lie. Was she wrong to laugh in Jen’s face, or did she give her the reminder she deserved?
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