He Got So Upset With His Autistic Wife That He Told Her To “Grow Up” Because He Didn’t Want To Have To Raise Her On Top Of The Child They Just Had

Drobot Dean - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Drobot Dean - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

This man has a wife who has autism, and they have been with one another for several years now. Not too long ago, they welcomed their first child together, and that has really been difficult for his wife to manage.

Prior to having their child, his wife would get hyper-focused on certain things and talk for hours on end about them, and it was something that he enjoyed.

He and his wife were really good at discussing their feelings in a better attempt to understand where the other person was coming from.

They also used to make little journals for one another, and they would write out what they liked and didn’t like, their interests, and their lists of don’t and dos.

His wife’s autism has never been a problem for them throughout their entire time together, but their child has changed that.

His wife’s autism has really gotten awful, and it’s difficult to have to care for his child and his wife too.

His wife is also on leave from work for 20 months, so he works 10 hours each day to support their family.

As soon as he gets home from work, he instantly needs to be concerned about if his wife has had anything to eat that day, as well as if she fed their child.

His wife and child do spend every morning with his family, so that helps some, but then his wife is left all on her own until he gets off work.

Drobot Dean – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

Anyway, he also has to cook food for his wife and his child, and then he has to change and dress their child for bed. He essentially has to go through the same nightly routine for his wife as well, and she’s turning into his second child.

What really sent him over the edge was finding out that his wife spent their money for rent on pricey Halloween costumes. He gets his wife was trying to be thoughtful, but he then had to beg his family for the money he needed to pay their rent this month. He finally snapped when his wife brought out the costumes to show him.

“She spends most mornings sleeping in and most evenings ignoring our child in their crib while flipping through TikToks,” he explained.

“…I basically told her, “I Will NOT raise our Child AND their Mother,” and told her to “Grow up.” I get that some of it isn’t her fault, but I can’t risk our child’s safety on her whims. She regularly buys random things we don’t need, leaves our child unattended or barely supervised, and I have to constantly worry about her and our child eating while I’m working to make sure we keep a roof over our heads.”

“I’m at the end of my rope and feel like I’m the only adult in the relationship. I’ve nearly called it quits if not for what that would do to our child.”

Do you think it was wrong of him to tell his wife to grow up?

You can read the original post on Reddit here.

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