Look Out For These Key Signs To Figure Out If A Guy Is Just Wasting Your Time
Time Is Our Most Precious Commodity
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So, any guy who leaves you questioning the future of your relationship just is not worth it. This can obviously be extremely difficult to recognize at the beginning of a relationship. Plus, practically no one ever becomes exclusive while knowing that their partnership will ultimately hit a dead-end.
You Enter A Relationship Hoping It Will Last And That It Won’t Be A Waste Of Time
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Instead, most people enter relationships with hopes that they will last, that they will find “their person” and build a future together.
But, as time goes on, high hopes and good intentions might not be enough to shape your romantic path. And once a guy reveals that he just really is not in it for the long haul, you may walk away feeling blindsided, brokenhearted, and like you just wasted a ton of time.
Here Are Some Signs A Guy Will Not Commit To You
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Thankfully, though, you don’t have to just wait around until a guy spells out his own intentions to save yourself some heartache and precious effort. No, you can just keep an eye out for these key signs that your new beau might be wasting your time, and it’s probably time to cut it off.
He Claims He Doesn’t Want A Relationship
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This first one might seem obvious, but if a guy claims he does not want to be in a relationship, there is no changing his mind. Stop trying to win him over or show him what he could have. First of all, he has not yet earned such attention and effort. Remember that that is reserved for guys who show you they are ready.
And That Means His Heart Isn’t Into It
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And more importantly, recognize that you cannot control anyone else’s feelings or actions. Sure, your efforts might win him over in the short term and draw out your relationship a bit. But if his heart is not fully in it– and he has told you that– just believe him. It’s not worth delaying the heartbreak and wasting your time.
He’s Wishy-Washy
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Another sign that a guy will not end up committing to your relationship is if he’s wishy-washy. Sometimes he’s hot and heavy, other times, he’s distant and cold.
Of course, this on-and-off behavior could be caused by other factors– such as problems in someone’s personal life. But if they are recurring, and you know that nothing else is going on, don’t waste your breath.
And If Someone Loves You, They Won’t Play Games
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If someone truly loves you and wants to be with you, they will not play games or disappear for days or weeks at a time. These mixed signals should tell you everything you need to know.
He’s Active On Dating Apps
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And obviously, if you find out that a guy is still active on dating apps, kick him to the curb. Some guys will try to be sly and come up with excuses– trying to tell you they “haven’t been active” on it or that they “never long in anymore.”
And There’s No Excuse For That
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Don’t fall for this lame excuse. If he planned to commit, he wouldn’t feel the need to keep Tinder or Hinge in his back pocket.
Likewise, even if a guy is honest about being on dating apps but claims it’s okay because you aren’t exclusive yet, don’t waste your time there, either. It is still a sign that he has not found what he’s looking for yet, and you will inevitably get hurt.
He Flirts With Other Women
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Another huge no-no is if you see your guy flirting with other women right in front of you.
This sign points to how important it is to pay attention to men’s actions more than their words. Sure, a guy might not come right out and tell you he isn’t ready to commit. But if you see him eyeing another woman at a bar, you will immediately know.
And Don’t Fall For The Trap Of Thinking He’s Trying To Make You Jealous
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Even if he was, that’s not fair– especially when you are still in the dating stages. Remember, you don’t have any time to waste on playing games and trying to make you jealous is just an immature way to get your attention.
He Never Includes You In His Future Plans
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One final sign that a guy you’re seeing is not planning to go exclusive is if he talks about his future plans and never includes you in them.
Other people are, of course, allowed to have big plans for their future based on their individual interests and goals. But, if you catch a guy constantly talking about going backpacking around Europe, changing jobs, or moving out of the city, and he never once mentions how you fit into the equation, it’s safe to say you probably are not a part of his larger plan.
And That’s Not A Sign He’s Looking For Commitment
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For some people, that’s okay. But for others who are looking for a committed relationship, this is a major red flag. If a guy doesn’t seem to care whether you are by his side or not as he moves onto his next phase in life, don’t waste any more time and just break it off.
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