Her Boyfriend Didn’t Buy Her An Anniversary Present, And Then He Took Her Out To Dinner At A Restaurant That Had Nothing On The Menu That She Could Eat
This 31-year-old woman has been dating her 35-year-old boyfriend for one year, and their relationship marked a fresh start for her after coming out of a difficult 11-year relationship.
During those years with her ex, however, she faced constant disappointment on special occasions as he would never buy her gifts to celebrate major holidays. He always claimed her presents were running late or on their way, but nothing ever materialized.
Even her birthday gifts, due in September, would arrive as late as December and only after pleading with him to get her something.
Gift-giving is completely her love language, and she thinks it’s the highest form of personal expression of affection; not a sign of materialism as some might mistakenly think.
Her new relationship was supposed to be different, but six months in, a rude awakening awaited her on Valentine’s Day. Despite her effort and excitement, her boyfriend had not even bothered with a card.
She had picked out a beautiful dress to wear, she wrote him a heartfelt card, and she even purchased a present for him. Yet, he did nothing for her in return.
She let it go, attributing the oversight to an honest mistake and a lack of expectations in his past relationships.
She communicated her feelings and tried to set the stage for their anniversary, even though her pride was wounded. The plan was simple: he’d take her to dinner, and she would treat him to something special.
“Before you come at me with being entitled, the plan was he would take me for dinner, and then I’d treat him to something else,” she explained.
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“My part of the date was significantly more expensive as well, but I don’t care since I make more. I was trying to keep my expectations low, but one week before the anniversary, he said he’s really excited about the gift exchange since he let me down on Valentine’s Day.”
“It made me happy and panic at the same time since I was keeping it low-key. I had a week, so got him really nice presents, wrote a 9-page emotional love letter, the whole shebang.”
But on the big day, he showed up empty-handed at her house, claiming her gifts were delayed. She fought back tears and did her best to hold it together.
When they got to the restaurant, the disappointment continued. He took her out somewhere that didn’t have one vegetarian option on the menu, and that’s all she eats. Her boyfriend profusely apologized and promised to make it up to her this weekend. She was thrilled to have another chance at having a romantic night out, but then he texted her to say he has to cancel.
Apparently, he already made plans with someone else, so that’s his reason for canceling. Oh, and this has already happened to her about 2 or 3 times in the year she’s been dating him. She’s left feeling hurt and unheard, and she’s kind of spiraling out of control.
How can she let him know how much he’s hurt her without ruining his weekend? How can she find a healthy resolution to a situation where her feelings seem to hold so little weight?
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