She Went To Go See The New Barbie Movie With Her Mom, And It Made Her Cry As She Realized Her Mom Will Never Love Her
This woman, who is in her 30s, recently moved back home.
Throughout her time being around her mother again, she has acknowledged that she and her mother have, unfortunately, never had a healthy relationship and often argue with each other.
Sadly, she doesn’t feel like she’s the daughter her mother had hoped her to become. She has suffered from mental illness and is a higher weight, and her mother hasn’t shown her empathy or emotional support.
“Last December, during an argument, she told me that my mental illness that I truly work hard to control (10 plus years in consistent and intense therapy) triggers her childhood trauma because her mom has the same disorders,” she said.
Unfortunately, her mother has constantly compared her to her grandmother over the years. But recently, these comparisons have been more difficult to cope with. She doesn’t think her mother recalls that she even said these hurtful things.
A couple of days ago, she and her mother watched the Barbie movie together. As she watched actress America Ferrara’s character and the child actress playing her daughter, she realized that their relationship throughout the film was something she had always yearned for.
“I wish I had a mom who cared, who loved me, and who knew that I was just a kid who didn’t realize how much she does,” she explained.
While watching the movie, she wanted her mother to be moved by the mother-daughter relationship and finally start to show her the love she has always missed growing up.
Before seeing the movie, she’d heard other women express these feelings as daughters when they saw the Barbie movie.
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Instead, while she cried during the movie, her mother laughed at her, not even knowing why she was sobbing in the first place.
“My mother only shows love when I can do something for her, and really, that’s not often,” she shared.
Growing up, her mother repeatedly told her all the things she “gave up” in order to raise her.
Her mother has claimed that when she would express things her mother did that upset her, this would, in turn, upset her mother, too, because her mother thought she was being too negative.
During these conversations, her mother always finds ways to blame her and shame her for not doing enough.
For so many years, she has wondered why her mother doesn’t value her or appreciate her.
She has often wondered if her mother has treated her poorly because she is unknowingly repeating the parenting cycle of her own mother being cruel to her. She is her mother’s only daughter.
These realizations have understandably crushed her. She believes that the relationship she has with her mother is even more tense now that she’s moved back home, and she doesn’t plead with her mother to love her anymore. She no longer tries to get her mother to care for her.
Moving forward, she has decided to get ready to move out without letting her mother know ahead of time.
From there, she will go low-contact or have no contact with her mother at all in the future.
After watching the Barbie movie, it brought her the clarity she needed. She acknowledged that she couldn’t continue to feel awful about herself and allow her mother to make her feel even worse.
Do you have any experiences like this?
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