She Dumped Her Boyfriend Because He Constantly Starved Her Throughout Their Whole Relationship And She Finally Got Sick of His Lack of Generosity
This young woman says that her love language comes down to acts of service. She’s the kind of girl who will go out of her way to purchase something for her boyfriend if she’s thinking of him that day, and she is always excited to give someone a gift.
Throughout her entire relationship with her last boyfriend, she would make sure to ask him if he would like something to eat any time that he came over to her home.
She also ensured he was comfortable and had whatever he needed, whether it was drinks, food, or anything else that he desired.
If she was eating, she would ask if he wanted any, and it’s something she believes to be “common courtesy.”
Asking someone if they would like some of your food comes down to decent manners, and it also makes her happy to know that someone is being cared for in that way.
But, back to how food specifically played a role in the end of her relationship with her boyfriend.
“I invited him to family dinners at restaurants, and he didn’t have to pay for anything,” she explained.
“I go as far as offering and feeding him in the car while he’s driving and has his hands full because I feel bad that I’m eating next to him and he’s not able to because his hands are on the wheel.”
“Recently, when I saw him, I bought him waffles and Starbucks without him even having to ask. The problem is, he’s the exact opposite. And despite me voicing out my concerns and having arguments about it, things didn’t really change much. He would eat beside me or in front of me and not offer me anything.”
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If they went to a store, he would purchase something for himself, yet never ask her if she wanted anything. He also never offered to pay for her, even if she got a little thing like a bar of chocolate.
Meanwhile, she was constantly offering to pay for him or pay her own way since she makes her own money and is proud of her independence.
This left her feeling like she wasn’t in a relationship at all since her boyfriend was not looking out for her.
Back in the beginning of the relationship, she would spend hours at his house without him asking her if she would like something to drink or eat.
She did end up arguing with him about it, and he changed for a brief period before falling back into his old, inconsiderate ways.
“We’d be driving in the car, and I would tell him I’m starving; he’d brush it off and forget about it and continue driving (I hate having to ask. I used to have poor boundaries),” she said.
“Another time, we went for an out-of-town drive and had been on the highway for hours, and I literally told him I was starving and was feeling pain in my stomach and needed to stop for food asap, and he said sure but continued driving for at least an hour more. Had I not made a big deal out of it, he wouldn’t have gotten out of the highway and stopped by a restaurant.”
She was so completely and utterly dehydrated that day it scared her. They ended up getting into a disagreement, and he just gave her awful excuses while promising that he would change for her.
And months after the fact, nothing was different. He was continuing with the same pattern that she thought was hurtful.
She grew up in a family that was kind and prioritized generosity, and she couldn’t envision herself ever being alright with someone who deviated from this.
She finally grew sick and tired of him basically starving her in more ways than one, so she dumped him.
“So I left him,” she continued. “Taking myself to a nice treat because how tf did I tolerate that? Why…did I give so much care and receive so less?”
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