Her Husband Decided To Let His Parents Stay With Them For Months Without Consulting Her First, And It’s Seriously Starting To Affect Her Marriage

Mironifamily - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Mironifamily - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

This 34-year-old woman and her husband, 41, have been together for the last seven years, and not long ago, her husband’s parents’ visa was approved for them to stay in the United States.

The visa approval process took quite a while, and his parents were worried that their request would be denied. She was thrilled that their visa was approved, meaning that they could come to visit her and her husband.

His parents were going to then purchase their airfare, and while discussing the topic, she told her husband that a month-long visit would be reasonable.

“My husband got really angry at me and yelled at me that his parents can come for as long as they want to. Of course, I got upset at his reaction because I felt like he was being selfish and not considering me as someone who also lives in the household,” she said.

Their apartment is a tiny 880-square-foot space, and her job is remote. If his parents stayed with them for longer than a month, it would make their living environment difficult.

Plus, she doesn’t speak his parents’ native language, so communicating with them isn’t easy since they often like speaking their language amongst themselves.

Unfortunately, her husband and his parents planned for a nearly three-month stay instead, claiming that they planned for this because of the amount of vacation time he had saved up.

This bothered her, but she tried to accept that her husband wanted to spend as much time with his parents as he was able to. She acknowledged that this might be the only chance his parents had to make this trip, so she did her best to see the situation from her husband’s point of view.

Then, one of her husband’s other family members had their visa approved. His parents wanted all three of them to be able to visit together. She approved this idea but asked her husband to let his family member know that their apartment isn’t very spacious, so they should probably only stay for about two weeks.

Mironifamily – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

However, her husband didn’t heed her advice or her thoughts, so his family member is planning to stay with them for a month. Understandably, this irritated her that not only were his parents going to be with them in their small apartment for three months, but a third guest would also be visiting for several weeks.

Leading up to his parents’ arrival, she was upset that he didn’t seem to care about how she felt at all before allowing his family to stay with them for way longer than she was comfortable with.

In order to better cope with the situation, as well as give her husband’s family space, she planned to stay with her parents for several weeks. Everything was going well while she was with her parents.

At one point, she went back to her and her husband’s place so that she could meet his family member and hang out. Prior to this, her husband had occasionally talked about how he wanted to take a little trip with his family to another state while they were visiting.

When they discussed this idea, she requested that he make sure to purchase tickets for traveling during the week because that would work better for her.

Once again, her husband didn’t think of her when planning out the travel with his family, and the tickets he purchased were over the weekend.

“He didn’t even ask if I wanted to join or if I was okay with that–nothing. It made me very sad and upset that, again, he did not take me into consideration when making these decisions,” she explained.

Also, she found out that her husband had purchased these tickets days prior without giving her a heads-up. This conversation was happening while his family was around, and she was on the verge of tears, so she went to her bedroom so that she could be alone.

Her reaction angered her husband, and he and his family left the house not long after this.

Several hours later, they returned, and she told her husband she wanted to have a discussion about everything.

“I told him I felt betrayed, left out, and unloved by his actions. He got super angry and started yelling at me. His family was in the room next door and could hear his yelling. I was trying to express my emotions in a respectful way, but that seemed to trigger him even more,” she shared.

According to her husband, her actions put a damper on his family’s stay, and he claimed that they were not comfortable anymore. He added that his family has been kind to her, and she didn’t argue with this because it was true.

From her perspective, her husband didn’t pay any attention to how she felt. Instead, he’s been prioritizing his family while ignoring her completely, and this was the last straw for her.

She knows that her husband wants to do what he can to make his family’s time in the United States enjoyable, but she explained that after the argument, everyone can sense the tension. His family has sided with him, so she feels like the odd one out in her own apartment.

What would you do if you were in her shoes?

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