What would you do if you found yourself caught in the middle of your ex-spouse and their new spouse, simply because your ex wanted to win you back and had no problem hitting on you?
This 30-year-old woman met her 32-year-old ex-husband when she was only 17, and they got married after less than three years of dating.
They both grew up with terrible families, which caused them to really bond over their sad backgrounds. One year into being married, they welcomed a baby, and 18 months later, they had their second child.
When she was pregnant with their third, she unfortunately found out that her husband was cheating on her with several different women.
“He didn’t want our marriage to end and made these grand statements promising he would change, etc. But I wasn’t entertaining that [nonsense],” she explained.
“I grew up watching someone who did, and I swore I would never be them. Since the divorce, my ex-husband and I have kept contact to a minimum and only for our kids. I’m the primary parent.”
Her husband is wildly unstable and happily gave her custody because of that, so she respects that he wanted their kids to have a better life than what they suffered through when they were younger.
Following the divorce, her husband has had a ton of different girlfriends, and his relationships have all ended because he’s honest about all the regrets he has surrounding her and their failed marriage.
He has also been very upfront about asking if he can have another chance with her, which she has not entertained, even though he’s been doggedly pursuing her.
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“He’s even remarried now, and his wife has been aware of this for the last year. She stays with him and chooses to hate me for her husband’s behavior,” she said.
“I have to bring friends along whenever I go to a school play or a sports game because they will try to sit next to me, and she will be nasty and bitter and hateful because the guy she stays married to is making heart eyes at me and trying to win me back.”
“I have told her to speak to her husband and not me. I have told him to leave me alone unless it’s about our kids. I avoid being in their presence as much as possible. But he shows up to support the kids, she shows up, and sometimes wants to put on a show of my kids being close to her because she wants to make me jealous, but the kids move away from her so fast and show no more affection for her than they do a random stranger at those games/plays.”
There have been numerous incidents with her ex’s new wife that she and her lawyer have documented at length. Her ex’s wife has tried to fight her in the past.
She cannot get a restraining order or anything like that, since the court and the police told her that this woman’s actions don’t warrant that.
Her ex’s wife once got kicked out of a sports game for her child because this woman was shouting at her and seemed like she would get violent.
She’s exhausted and irritated to have to deal with all of this, and her ex isn’t doing anything to help. She does not talk to her ex unless she has to, and she’s not sure what else she can do to make things better.
She should honestly just tell her ex she doesn’t want him bringing his wife to events, and see if he is willing to help, since he does hold out hope he can have another shot with her.
Other than that, she’s already doing everything right by ignoring her ex’s wife and bringing friends along to literally create space between them.
I’m not sure what else there is for her to try, but it’s obvious her ex’s wife is jealous of her and the fact that her man is still chasing after what he lost.
What advice do you have for her?
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