She Lost Her Engagement Ring Somewhere In Her Friend’s House, But She Won’t Let Her Search For It
Back in 2019, this 30-year-old woman met her 27-year-old friend named Amy at work, though it’s not somewhere they still are.
They became fast friends and started doing absolutely everything together. When she and Amy left their jobs, it put some distance between them. While they were still great friends, they simply no longer saw one another every single day.
“Every now and again, Amy would call me up to recruit me to help her with a party or some chore she had to do,” she explained.
“I always jumped to do it because I like her. I love helping my friends and being that person they can rely on when they need something.”
In October, she got married to her husband. He has said all along he believes Amy takes advantage of her.
He has also expressed that if she ever were to ask Amy to help her, he knew Amy would not reciprocate.
She knows her husband is most likely spot on about his observations of Amy. Amy is super sweet, but she’s “chaotic” and “scatterbrained,” as well as unaware often in social settings.
Amy has a lot of problems, so she gives her the benefit of the doubt. But then, her best friends started drawing the same negative conclusions about Amy that her husband put together.
When she had her bachelorette party, she asked Amy to assist her with the decorations, since Amy has a huge collection of decor and party supplies.
Vladimir Borovic – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual people
But Amy arrived two hours late, and her two best friends were left scrambling to put everything together.
Amy did apologize, and she brought along a very thoughtful present, so she forgave her for the incident.
“This past week, though, my perception of her has changed drastically,” she said. “She needed help painting her basement and bedroom.”
“I took off work and came over as she had waited until the day before she would have new carpet put down.”
“I spent nearly 12 hours helping her clean, move things, and paint. I didn’t mind, though, because I wanted to help, and it made me happy that she could rely on me.”
Since she and Amy were painting, she took off her wedding ring and engagement ring and zipped them into a pocket of her handbag.
Any time she takes her rings off, she is incredibly careful. So, after she zipped up her rings, she never opened her bag again until the following morning.
When she woke up that day, she grabbed her purse, expecting her rings to be safely inside the pocket.
Her wedding ring was sitting in there right where she left it; however, her engagement ring was no longer in there.
“I emptied my purse and even cut the lining in it to see if it somehow magically slipped in it,” she continued.
“Nothing. I thought maybe I did open it and unzip it, and maybe it fell out, so I searched my entire car, even taking out the seats. I called her a couple of times and got no response from her.”
She left Amy a message filling her in, but it took Amy several hours to get back to her. When Amy did reply, she said she had just got up, and she couldn’t look around her house since the carpeting was being installed.
Amy did say she retraced her steps outside of the house, yet did not find the ring anywhere in that search.
She called Amy in tears, pleading with her to look through her house and ask the workers there to lay down the carpeting.
Amy showed the workers the photo and mentioned to keep looking, but she doesn’t know who these workers are and don’t trust they would be helpful.
“There was also another girl who was helping us,” she added. “I know her, but not that well. But she has admitted to some petty theft. Nothing big. Therefore I cannot trust her integrity.”
Right after she got off the phone with Amy, Amy was posting on social media about hanging out with this sketchy friend.
Amy then told her she looked as much as possible for the ring, and perhaps it’s somewhere in her desk.
She questioned Amy about if it would be alright to look around, but Amy said she was exhausted and could stop by some other time.
Amy also pointed out that her house was a mess and would have to be unpacked to search properly, which only upset her more.
She was desperate to find her engagement ring, and Amy clearly did not care in the least. Amy kept on posting on social media and ignoring her.
She didn’t think it was reasonable to expect Amy to spend all day and night looking for the ring, but if the tables were turned, she would be ripping apart her house until the ring was located.
“After days of little response or willingness to let me come look, I sent her a text telling her she obviously did not care I lost a prized possession,” she continued.
“She responded a day later saying she does care, but again, little willingness to give an actual update or invite me over (even though on her snap she had several friends over helping her unpack).”
“I do trust she did not steal it; however, I don’t trust her friend or the workers. I feel if it did somehow fall out, it was probably found and pocketed. I know for a fact I had it zipped in the pocket of my purse, and I did not even open it as my phone and keys were in my jacket pocket.”
Her ring went missing a week ago, and Amy still has provided no updates aside from claiming to still be on the hunt for it.
She spent 12 hours helping Amy clean and paint her home, so she thinks the least Amy could do is put more effort into finding her ring.
She considered chewing Amy out, but she’s still clinging to the hope that Amy will somehow, someday, uncover the ring, though that’s quickly fading.
Her husband was super kind when she told him about the ring going missing, and for Christmas, he’s buying her an exact copy of the ring.
“I just feel like this was her chance to show up for me, and I am disappointed,” she remarked. “My heart aches. I love her to pieces, she is hilarious, sweet, and really fun to be around. However, she is disorganized and a bit self-centered at times. I’ve been urged by my husband and friends several times to minimize contact with her even before this incident.”
“I know at the end of the day it is my fault as I should’ve double-checked my purse before leaving. I just have built the habit of zipping them in the pocket. I feel like a total fool and have been kicking myself for losing it. I wish she would allow me to come look. It’s been very frustrating.”
“Do I hold out hope she finds it? I am ready to cut ties, but I feel if she found it, I would feel much would be forgiven, but I just know she won’t. Should I just cut my losses and accept she will never find it? If so, should I just cut her off now instead of holding onto a sliver of hope my friend will show up for me? I really don’t know what to do, I love her and value her, and I would hate to lose her friendship. How should I approach my friendship or the loss of said friendship?”
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