His Wife Threatened To Divorce Him When He Said He’s Going To Be The Only One Parenting Their Spoiled, Bully Of A Son From Now On
This 40-year-old man’s 38-year-old wife is a proponent of soft parenting. Soft parenting, also referred to as gentle parenting, is a parenting style that focuses on creating a relationship with your child that is based on your child being able to express their feelings in an appropriate way.
Soft parenting is also meant to teach your child how to be empathetic from an early age, though sadly, it seems this man’s wife missed the memo on that.
His wife doesn’t think that any child should be punished or reprimanded for anything that they do and that you also should never tell a child “no.”
For the first eight years of their son’s life, his wife would not allow him to help her parent at all. Any time that he attempted to intervene and discipline their son, tell him how to behave, or instill manners in him, his wife would get upset.
His wife would criticize his methods of parenting to the point where he had to ask her to not do this in front of their son.
That didn’t help things, and his wife continued to put him down in front of their son when he tried to help parent.
While this was all occurring, he never engaged and argued back with her while their son was present, even if he did not agree with what she was doing.
“So, our son grew up to be a rather spoiled child who didn’t know the word no,” he explained. “My wife always defended him and said that I can spoil a child’s psyche with prohibitions.”
“The only time she gently asked our son to stop misbehaving was when he tortured our cat. And even then, my wife kept quiet the whole time our son was doing it, didn’t let me interfere, and only when the cat scratched our son in the face she groaned and said, “Oh, honey, maybe you should stop playing with the cat.”
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Now, this brings us to the latest problem he’s having with his wife’s parenting skills. His wife works from home, so she’s always the one who gets their son from school every day.
This week, she was unable to do it one day, so he went to go get their son. As his son was putting on his coat, his son’s teacher approached him and asked if they could speak about something.
His teacher proceeded to talk to him for 30 minutes, and what the teacher had to say gave him goosebumps. Apparently, his son has been ruthlessly bullying a boy who attends the same school as him.
“This poor boy comes from a dysfunctional family, his parents drink, his clothes are old and dirty, he has even been visited by child welfare a few times, and since then, he has been living with his grandmother,” he said.
“My son decided that this was a great excuse to bully this kid. But the worst part turned out to be that my wife was aware of it.”
“The teacher said she talked to her several times, but she refused to take any action or tell me. Well, that was the last straw for me.”
When he got home, he gave his wife a piece of his mind and said her parenting style is completely messed up. He also laid down the law and said he would be the one parenting their son alone from here on out.
He knows his son needs someone to sit him down and go over why bullying is so awful, which his wife clearly is incapable of doing.
He also believes his son could benefit from a more stern way of parenting since things are not going well at all with his wife being in charge. After he said all of that to his wife, she threatened to divorce him.
“What should I do so that my son doesn’t grow into a horrible adult but my wife doesn’t leave me?” he wondered.
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