Her Boyfriend Called Her Cats Disgusting And Wants To Get Rid Of Them
Two years ago, this 24-year-old girl started dating her boyfriend, who is the same age as her, and a year ago, they moved in together.
She got her two cats back in 2019, and from the moment she started dating her boyfriend, she knew he didn’t exactly like them, but she was hopeful he would change his mind and build a connection with her pets.
“They sit on top of him, and he cuddles with them; he’s actually the one who feeds them in the morning, etc.,” she explained.
“He often comments that he feels gross with the cats around, so I keep them and the areas that they exist in as clean as possible, and I was hoping that he’d stop seeing them as dirty creatures (they don’t even go outside, so they aren’t dragging in pests or dirt of anything).”
An office in their home is the designated room for her cats, and it was a big deal for her to compromise with her boyfriend over this.
She wanted her cats to sleep in her bedroom, but that’s off-limits now so her boyfriend can enjoy a space that’s devoid of her pets.
A couple of weeks ago, they actually got into an argument about the litter boxes after her boyfriend complained that they smelled and needed cleaning.
She was super stressed out cleaning their house, and when he said that about the litter boxes, it didn’t make her feel good.
He then reminded her that the cats are her responsibility only when she asked her boyfriend to give her a hand and clean out the litter boxes.
Evrymmnt – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person or cat
“It felt harsh, but I accepted the sentiment because he is right, they are my cats and not his, but it rubbed me the wrong way,” she said.
“We’re in a fairly serious relationship, so when someone in his family might need something for example, I wouldn’t say “I’m busy right now and it’s not my responsibility” because to me, if I’m a entering serious commitment, I would very naturally accept my partner’s family and friends as my own.”
“And I know animals aren’t people, but in my family, animals are a part of the family. We didn’t talk about it too much, but just last night, I commented on how I’m glad that he bonded with my cats in the end. We were sitting on the couch and getting ready to make dinner, and he commented that he didn’t want to get up because he wanted the cat to keep laying on him, so I felt like it was a natural comment to make.”
Well, her boyfriend said he thinks the cats are disgusting, and if he could do things his way, he would get rid of them.
He continued, pointing out how he’s trying to tolerate them because of her, but he’s not attached to them in the least and has no interest in bonding with them since they’re so gross.
Her boyfriend clarified that he would never demand that she get rid of them as that wasn’t fair, but he still made her understand how much he dislikes them overall.
She thinks it’s not enough for her boyfriend to simply tolerate her cats if they are going to spend their lives together.
“How can I find a compromise? Is ‘tolerating’ animals enough, and am I asking for too much by asking for ‘acceptance’ or even bonding?” she wondered.
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