She Doesn’t Want To Pay For Anymore Work On Her Fiancé’s House Until They’re Officially Married Or The House Is Also Put In Her Name
This 26-year-old woman and her fiancé, 32, have been in a relationship for nearly eight years. For about two to three years, she’s been living in the home he owns.
When one of her fiancé’s family members passed away, he inherited this house, and it’s still in only his name.
She isn’t bothered that she doesn’t own the house, and they split all their bills in half. The arrangement has been working for her because she adores the home and location, and she accepts that since she isn’t legally part of her fiancé’s family yet, she shouldn’t expect the house to also be in her name.
Unfortunately, their incredibly old home was in desperate need of repairs. It wasn’t well-maintained for decades, so it was essentially falling apart.
She and her fiancé only installed heating last year, and they were without hot water for several months at one point. These renovations have been outrageously expensive.
“During a recent argument, my partner made threats about kicking me out and telling me to go back home,” she said.
Understandably, hearing her fiancé’s words hit her like a ton of bricks. At that moment, it dawned on her that if he followed through with his threats, she would have to start over, owning nothing after years of spending money to repair a house that wasn’t legally hers since they weren’t married yet.
“He maintains that he simply only said this during an argument, did not mean it, and was sorry,” she explained.
They will start their next renovation project soon, costing them thousands. She started getting nervous, knowing she was still paying so much to repair a home she didn’t own, especially after her fiancé threatened to kick her out.
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When she had voiced her concerns to him in the past, he always brushed them off, and they went forward with their housing projects.
“I was wondering if it would be unfair to say I won’t be putting any more money into the house until we are married or I am listed as an owner,” she shared.
Her intention is not to cause more tension with her fiancé or ruin their housing project plans. However, she is unsure if she’s being immature about the situation and if it wouldn’t be fair to her fiancé if she stopped paying for repairs or asked to be listed as an owner of the house.
What advice would you give her?
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