Stop Believing That You’re Supposed To Love Your Partner Unconditionally: It Can Actually Lead You To Overlook Crucial Limits And Boundaries

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Have you ever met someone who made you feel bad because they’ve boasted about how they and their partner love each other “unconditionally?”

When people tell you that you and your boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse are supposed to love each other unconditionally no matter what, sometimes you just want to roll your eyes.

Or, you try to love your person unconditionally, but something makes you realize that’s practically impossible, and you feel bad.

However, it’s important to remember that when you say you love your partner unconditionally, that means you love them without any limits. But that means you’ve agreed to love your partner even if they cheat, lie, or hurt you.

Limits and boundaries are necessary in relationships, as you have to establish them to protect yourself. When you let your partner constantly cross those boundaries, you’re giving them permission to take advantage of you.

Yes, it’s amazing to find love where you feel like you and your partner could survive just about anything. But there should be limits in order to protect yourself from getting hurt.

Here are a few more reasons why you should reconsider loving your partner “unconditionally.”

There could be a power struggle

If you continue to tell your partner you love them unconditionally, they may use it as a way to take advantage of you. They may believe they have the power to get away with hurting you or messing up your plans, as you promised to love them no matter what. 

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