Her Family Is Pressuring Her To Include Her Sister, Who Has Cancer, In Her Bridal Party, But They’ve Never Been Close, And Her Sister Always Acted More Like A Bully Than Family
If you’re married, did you ever feel pressured to include a certain relative in your wedding party even if you didn’t want them to be in it?
One woman is being pressured by her family to make her sister one of her bridesmaids, and the pressure has been especially turned up since her sister found out she has cancer. However, she doesn’t want to do it.
She’s 26 and has been engaged to her fiancé since 2020. Instead of having a large bridal party, she plans on only having one bridesmaid, her best friend, who is more like a sister.
She does have a 24-year-old sister but does not want her to take any part in her wedding. They’ve never been close, as their parents have always favored her sister. Her sister was especially beautiful when they were kids and did some modeling, making her the “star” of the family.
The attention and favoritism got to her sister’s head, and she had a way of making sure everyone was always paying attention to her.
“I was seen as the ugly duckling, and my sister had a way of ‘nicely’ picking on that,” she explained.
“If I went out with friends, she would say I should wear makeup to look nice, or she would suggest I should try to make myself look cute. She would say she was really glad nobody thought we looked alike.”
Things only worsened when she met her fiancé at a party in 2019. Her sister was also there, and when her fiancé approached her for the first time, her sister tried to intervene and get him to flirt with her instead. She told him he deserved to talk to the “pretty sister” instead, but thankfully, he ignored her.
“We’ve been together ever since,” she said.
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“But she brought it up when he came home with me for Christmas in 2019, and she ‘joked’ that it wasn’t too late, but I think she was serious. Despite all this, my parents believe we should be super close, and I should adore my sister.”
Things have gotten especially sensitive with her sister, as she was diagnosed with cancer four months ago. Her sister’s cancer treatments have taken quite a toll on her appearance, which has gained her a lot of sympathy from everyone they know.
Because of this, her parents are desperate for her to make her sister a bridesmaid at her wedding. However, she believes that she shouldn’t have to because of their complicated past and distant relationship.
Recently, out of the blue, her sister told her how badly she wanted to be by her side as her only bridesmaid when she got married and that it was especially important as she didn’t know if she’d be around by next year.
Still, she told her sister and her parents no, that her best friend would be her only bridesmaid, and that was final.
Was she cruel to not let her sister be her bridesmaid, or was she right to stand her ground?
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