His Daughter Got Dumped, Then Got Mad He Told Her She Pushed Her Boyfriend Away
There’s a fine line between comforting someone and telling them what they need to hear. And sometimes, loving someone means choosing the truth, even when it stings.
This dad watched his daughter slowly push away a good man, despite his gentle warnings. Now that the relationship’s over, she’s devastated.
But when she said she didn’t understand why it ended, he told her the truth, and now he’s left wondering if honesty was too harsh when her heart was already breaking.
His 22-year-old daughter spent three years dating her boyfriend, and he was very fond of the guy. His daughter’s boyfriend was supportive and kind, which impressed him.
His daughter’s boyfriend always pitched in to help his daughter with her errands. The guy cheered his daughter on and celebrated wins with her.
He got along great with their entire family. He watched his daughter’s cat when she had to go out of town for work. There was nothing to dislike about the guy.
“The only ‘issue’ was that he wanted to move in together eventually, nothing rushed, he just wanted to start planning a life together,” he explained.
“My daughter kept brushing it off, saying she ‘wasn’t ready’ or that ‘living together ruins relationships.’ Fine, fair enough, but she also refused to spend more than one or two nights a week at his place, and constantly turned down vacations or weekend plans.”
“She’d cancel last minute, say she was tired, or that she ‘just wanted to be alone.'”
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Realizing all of this, he very cautiously tried to approach the subject with his daughter. He told her that if she kept on shutting her boyfriend out, eventually, he would feel like she didn’t want him.
His daughter replied that if her boyfriend truly loved her, he would get her need for alone time. It seems her boyfriend was no longer that understanding, as a week ago, he dumped her.
He can tell that his daughter’s boyfriend grew sick and tired of being in a one-sided relationship. His daughter was heartbroken, and she sobbed constantly.
“I hugged her, I listened. But when she said, ‘I don’t understand what I did wrong,’ I told her the truth. I said, ‘You pushed him away for over a year. You refused to meet him halfway, and at some point, even the most patient person walks,'” he added.
“She got really upset and stormed out. Now my wife says I was out of line and that I should have just comforted her instead of ‘kicking her while she was down.'”
“I get that she’s hurting. But I also think she needed to hear it.”
Do you think he’s mean for giving his daughter a dose of reality?
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