His Wife Hates Working And Wants To Be A Housewife, But He Said He’d Rather Get Divorced Before Supporting That Decision
This man and his wife, who he is in the process of divorcing, got married two years ago and have been together for six years.
Not long ago, his wife expressed her hopes of becoming a housewife, even though from the start of their relationship, they were in agreement that neither of them would stay home. He’d assumed they were on the same page that they would have full-time careers.
“Her reasoning is, ‘I hate my work, and it makes my life miserable, but you make 90% of our income anyway, so you could support me, and I could be happier that way,'” he said.
According to his wife, her job is overwhelming and makes her anxious, and she doesn’t make much money in her career. Over time, she’s grown frustrated and sick of her job.
When she said she wanted to be a housewife, she mentioned that he enjoys his career, and she can’t relate. She pointed out that since he likes his job, it wouldn’t be as much pressure for him to be the sole breadwinner.
Right away, he rejected his wife’s suggestion that she stay home, expressing that when they started dating, they decided against either of them being a homemaker. He added that he wouldn’t back down from his views and would prefer divorcing her if she still wanted to be a stay-at-home wife. His wife was angry and told him housework took a lot of effort to keep up with.
“She said it was basically a job if you do it properly. I said something along the lines of, ‘I agree it’s a job; that’s why I pay professionals to do it’ (I pay people to clean the whole house, do dishes, do laundry, lawn, and gutter),” he explained.
After their argument, his wife left to stay with her cousin. Before he and his wife got into a relationship, they that neither wanted to have children.
He does all the cooking for himself and his wife and makes her lunch for work. They evenly split the household chores that the people he hired aren’t responsible for.
Iona – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Before they got married, he purchased the home they’d been living in, and in their home country, purchases made before marriage aren’t legally viewed as marital assets.
They aren’t evenly divided when a couple divorces. This goes for the two vehicles he owns, too. He also owns nearly all of their electronics and furniture. Most of their money is his.
“I love her, and it pains me not to have her here. I’ve been crying myself to sleep ever since she left and haven’t been getting better at all, but marriage is also a contract, not just love,” he shared.
In his view, when his wife expressed her hopes of becoming a housewife, she wasn’t meeting their agreement before marriage.
If she became a stay-at-home wife, their lifestyle would dramatically change. He didn’t think they were aligned on what they wanted anymore, and there was no way to make a marriage work when they were so incompatible.
After his wife went to stay with her cousin, her friends and family members contacted him and accused him of being an unsupportive jerk for not allowing her to be a housewife. They also told him his wife hasn’t been eating well and has gone to the hospital twice.
What advice would you give him?
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