This woman has been dating her now-fiancé, Matt, for seven years, and they have a 6-month-old daughter.
She also has two other children, 11 and 12, from a previous relationship. Her ex, the father of her two oldest children, passed away in a car accident a decade ago.
Matt is a wonderful man and a great parental figure to all her children. He’s supportive, kind, focused, thoughtful, and patient.
She’s always felt confident in him, and they have healthy communication. While she and Matt argue occasionally, they don’t do so often.
Whenever they don’t agree, they talk through it and come to an understanding without hurting each other’s feelings.
Recently, Matt expressed that he hoped to move back to his hometown, and this makes her uncomfortable because he’s hooked up with nearly every woman who lives there.
She clarified that the number of women Matt has slept with doesn’t make her uneasy. What makes her uneasy is how tiny his hometown is.
It’s a town so small that everybody who lives there knows one another. Since Matt has hooked up with so many women, it’d be impossible to go to a local store and not stumble across one of the women he’s slept with or the women’s parents.
Even though Matt hasn’t stayed in contact with any of his past hookups, some of his friends in his hometown still hang out with some of these women.
While she trusts him and doesn’t believe she has anything to worry about, she doesn’t want to deal with the awkwardness that would likely ensue.
“I don’t want to go to a parent-teacher conference with him (he goes to every single one) and have to deal with one of his many old partners who just happens to be there with her children, which would likely happen,” she said.
“I don’t want to walk into a grocery store or gas station and be met with, ‘Hey, you’re Matt’s wife, right?’ I just don’t want the attention at all.”
Because she didn’t like running into people she knew and didn’t want to talk to in her small hometown all the time, she moved away.
A few weeks ago, she and Matt went to his family’s house for dinner. His sister and one of his ex-girlfriends became friends a while ago (long after Matt and his ex broke up), so this ex was at dinner with his family.
Luckily, dinner wasn’t uncomfortable despite Matt’s ex-girlfriend being in attendance, and the woman was pretty awesome.
During the get-together, his family asked when they planned to move back to Matt’s hometown, and she laughed, brushing their comments aside. After dinner, she and Matt went grocery shopping.
“While we were inside, some guy walked over with his girlfriend and said, ‘Matt, how are you doing bud?’ and they started a conversation.
At some point, he goes, ‘You remember Tasha, right? Didn’t you guys hook up back in the day?’ As if it was just a normal conversation,” she explained.
The school system in Matt’s hometown is one of the best in the county; there are many job opportunities in the area, and there is lots of great housing available.
Her hometown is the next town over from Matt’s, and her family still lives there, so if they moved to his hometown, they’d be close to their families.
However, these positives of moving to his hometown haven’t swayed her. She enjoys the area they live in because they don’t know anybody, and she doesn’t have to deal with dramatic or awkward situations.
Plus, they already have a beautiful home and only live an hour away from their families. The job opportunities in Matt’s hometown would benefit him more than her.
He works at a dispensary, and she works in a hospital. If they moved, she would be working for less pay after transferring to a tiny local hospital.
The school where they currently live is ranked fifth in the state, while the school in Matt’s hometown is ranked second in the county and ninth in the state. During conversations about the issue, Matt told her he could see where she was coming from.
“But he keeps saying, ‘You know it’s not like that, right? I would literally never do anything to jeopardize us. It’s just a better school for the kids and closer to our families. I know I have a past, but I truly would never mess anything up with you,'” she shared.
While she believes Matt’s being honest with her, knows he loves her and is proud to be with her, she doesn’t feel comfortable moving to a town where she’ll have to encounter so many of his past partners.
What advice would you give her?
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