Abby Connolly
I don’t know about you, but I’m cursed with having a bit of a savior complex and being a very empathetic person.
There are many beautiful things about having those traits, but there are also some major downsides, as you can often be attracted to or drawn to broken people.
While there are many people you can help in the world, sometimes, there are people who are too far gone.
If you’re an empathetic, loving woman on the dating scene, you may be attracted to broken men who are very stuck in their toxic ways. However, it’s so important that you don’t waste much of your precious time trying to fix a broken man.
Men who are broken or can’t “be saved” are often unhappy, stubborn, and very negative. When you start dating them, they may give you the impression that you could help them heal or change, but after a while, you’ll realize that it’s hopeless.
Finding your ideal partner is finding someone who wants to change with you as time passes by instead of trying to change the way someone is in order to be happy with them.
A man who is emotionally broken is often emotionally unavailable. You can try as hard as you want to get him to open up to you and be vulnerable, but you’ll rarely get that side of him. Instead, you’ll probably get aggression every time you push him to open up.
These kinds of men really put you through the wringer because they can make you feel horrible about yourself.
I mean, if you spend so much time trying to connect with or heal him, only for him not to give you what you want, you may start blaming yourself.
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