His Fiancée Asked Him To Pay For A Portion Of His Soon-To-Be Stepdaughter’s $25,000 Jaw Surgery, But He Doesn’t Want To Sacrifice The Funds He Saved For Their Wedding And Honeymoon
When some people become stepparents, they decide to be just as dedicated to their stepchildren as their biological parents are, meaning they’d support and help them through everything.
However, some believe there should be some boundaries between stepparents and a child’s biological parents.
One man is unsure what to do after his fiancée asked him to pay a portion of his future stepdaughter’s expensive jaw surgery bill.
He’s 38 and has been with his 36-year-old fiancée for two years. They don’t have any children together, but his fiancée has two children, including her 16-year-old daughter, Jane.
He and his fiancée have been engaged for five months, and thankfully, he gets along with both of her kids. Although Jane is going through an angsty teenage phase, he still cares for her.
Unfortunately, Jane suffers from a jaw condition called Micrognathia. It causes her lower jaw to be smaller than usual and alters her appearance. Jane has been very insecure about her jaw condition for years, and it’s gotten worse since she’s gotten older and started getting teased by kids at school.
His fiancée learned there is a cosmetic procedure that can be done to lessen the severity of Jane’s Micrognathia, but getting it is complicated.
“It breaks my heart to see her upset,” he said.
“My fiancée has dental insurance through her job, but it wouldn’t cover the entire corrective surgery, not even by half. They’ve done consultations and gotten the go-ahead to proceed with the surgery, but the cost is incredibly high. Even after insurance, when everything is said and done, the bill will likely be over $25,000.
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His fiancée has looked deep into her finances and all of her payment options for the surgery but ultimately discovered there would be no way she could afford the procedure for Jane in the next few years. They’re in an especially tough place, as any money he and his fiancée have been saving over the last few months is supposed to go toward their wedding and honeymoon.
A few weeks ago, he and his fiancée had a serious conversation about their finances and Jane’s surgery after she came home crying because she was teased again at school. Jane begged them to find a way to let her get the surgery.
“[My fiancée] asked me if I would be willing to help pay for Jane’s surgery,” he recalled.
“I have a good job and make a decent living, but I don’t have that kind of money saved. I asked her how much she had saved to put towards it, and she said about $5,000. I told her that I felt terrible for Jane and what she was going through, but I didn’t have that kind of money, and the money I had saved was earmarked for the wedding and honeymoon.”
His fiancée told him she’d be willing to sacrifice their wedding and honeymoon and elope at a courthouse so they could pay for Jane’s surgery instead.
He argued with his fiancée for a while, telling her how important it was to him that they have a traditional wedding and how he didn’t want all their great ideas for their honeymoon to go to waste.
His fiancée then accused him of putting his wants over Jane’s needs and told him he was selfish. Then, she told him that if Jane were his biological daughter, he’d probably pay for the surgery immediately. That comment made him very angry, as he thought that was far from the truth.
After arguing back and forth for a while, he and his fiancée apologized to each other, but she still stands by the idea that it would be wrong of him to put his savings toward their wedding instead of Jane’s surgery.
What do you think he should do? Hold his ground to pay for his dream wedding or pay for his future stepdaughter’s surgery first?
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