She Feels Unworthy After Finding Out That Her Ex Is Getting Married When He Told Her He Was Against It
For 11 long years, this 32-year-old woman was with her 35-year-old ex-boyfriend, and they spent 8 of those years living together.
At one point, she told her boyfriend she really wanted to discuss getting married and having children.
It’s always been extremely important to her to have a wedding and babies, and so that’s why she knew she had to bring this up.
Initially, her boyfriend informed her that he was not quite ready to take these next steps in their relationship.
“Years went [by], and he finally told me he was against marriage as an institution and he didn’t want kids ever,” she explained.
“I was almost ready to accept it as I loved him very much but he argued we were going to resent each other if we stayed together as we wanted completely different things in life. The break up was amicable, but it devastated me.”
“Fast forward ~1.5 years after our break up: HE IS GETTING MARRIED. What’s worse, I know the woman. She is someone he was crushing hard on when we first met, but she was dating his friend. I was fresh out of a bad relationship myself, and we sort of bonded over our miserable love lives.”
When she and her ex started dating, he quit hanging out with his crush and his friend, but then that couple got married and went on to have two kids.
Five years ago, his friend sadly passed away. Then, barely four months after she and her ex broke up, he started dating this woman he always had a crush on.
TIGERRAW – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
And this is the woman her ex is now about to get married to. Even though she and her ex are no longer dating, they still share all of the same friends.
There’s no way for her to avoid her ex entirely for the rest of her life unless she’s willing to lose some of her closest friends.
She’s miserable after finding this all out, as she has not been able to move on from her ex, and knowing he’s marrying someone after claiming he never could is making moving on impossible for her. She also is left feeling incredibly insecure about herself.
She actually ended up having a couple of drinks and texted her ex and his soon-to-be wife, though she didn’t elaborate on what she said to the two of them.
“He even has no problem acting like a dad to some other dude’s kids when it’s her who’s their mother,” she said.
“But he’d never want kids with me. He proposed to her 6ish months after they started dating but was not ready for it when we had been living together for YEARS. I wish I could at least hate that woman, but she’s actually a nice person and seems like a great mom.”
“Very beautiful too, which I am not, and it makes me feel unworthy of love. What do I do? How do I move on with my life? It’s been 1.5 years, and I’m nowhere near ready to start dating again. I will end up alone and childless.”
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