The Most Exciting, Difficult, And Important Relationship You Will Ever Have Is With Yourself
The whimsical and insightful Carrie Bradshaw once said, “The most exciting, challenging, and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself.”
While Carrie Bradshaw may be a fictional HBO character, that quote has meant a lot to people, and it’s a great one.
I’m someone who has struggled with my ‘relationship’ with myself for years. Some months, weeks, or days, I can’t stand myself and berate myself. Others, I love and appreciate myself. There are also some days when I occupy myself with so many other issues and problems other people have that I forget about myself.
This is human nature – we all struggle to find self-love and appreciate the kind of people we are from time to time. There are also many of us who are so unappreciative of ourselves that we feel as if we need to have top-tier romantic relationships and friendships to be “complete.”
However, what Carrie Bradshaw is trying to tell us in that quote, and what we need to keep in mind, is that our relationships with ourselves and how we view ourselves are incredibly important to finding peace and contentment.
If you haven’t thought much about this, allow me to elaborate.
Think about it this way – your relationship with yourself and how you treat yourself is the basis and foundation of how you handle all other relationships in your life.
Have you ever heard someone mention that in order to love and care for someone else, you have to love yourself? Well, it’s true!
Trying to love others and be happy is incredibly difficult when you’re constantly beating yourself up, going crazy with the idea of being alone, and not taking care of yourself.
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It’s important to realize that no matter how much the people in your life love you or how many romantic partners show you affection, you’ll never truly be content unless you’re happy with who you are.
Additionally, there is so much pressure in our culture to be in a relationship. So much media we’re consuming has us programmed to believe that we can’t be fulfilled unless we’re in a romantic situation.
However, that is far from the truth. The person who’ll always have your back is you, but only if you take care of yourself and have self-respect. That’s why the most ‘important’ relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself.
So, the next time you put yourself down, whether in public or in your mind, or the next time you spin out because you’re not in a relationship, I want you to remember that Carrie Bradshaw quote.
Remember that you’ve already carried yourself so far and through so many things, so there’s no reason to doubt the relationship you have with you.
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