If your parent started dating someone new who was obsessed with securing an invitation to your wedding just to keep an eye on your parent and prevent them from cheating, would you let them tag along?
Towards the end of the year, this 27-year-old woman will be having her wedding, and it’s going to be extremely small. As in, 25 guests invited, small. She finalized the guest list a year ago, and there is absolutely no wiggle room.
At the end of January, her dad began dating a new woman named Donna, and as soon as they made things official, she told her dad Donna was not getting an invitation to her wedding.
She hadn’t even met Donna yet, but she just didn’t have the space to accommodate her as a plus-one, and her dad was understanding of this.
“Without asking anyone, Donna decided she was invited and was telling everyone she was going to her new boyfriend’s daughter’s wedding and even took off the day before and after,” she said.
“My dad had to explain to her that she wasn’t invited, and now, has been telling me how she’s ‘bummed’ she’s not coming almost every time we talk.”
“Recently she’s been kind of spiraling and telling him, since he’s the father of the bride and paying for the wedding (he’s not my fiancé and I are), that he should just tell me to invite her.”
Her dad has firmly sided with her and stated that it’s her big day, so she can do what she wants. Not to mention, she already wrapped up her wedding planning before he made things official with Donna.
She did get angry after finding out that Donna was obsessed with securing an invitation to her wedding, and she questioned her dad about why Donna was acting like that. Well, Donna has one super selfish motivation for being there with her dad.
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What she means is that two of her dad’s exes are invited. One is her mom, and her parents got divorced several years ago. The other is her dad’s ex-girlfriend, and she and her fiancé are still incredibly close to her.
“His ex broke up [with him] last year, deciding they were better as friends (actually referring to each other as best friends). They broke up after the invites were going out, so we decided to just give her her own invite, not tied to his,” she added.
“This was taking place probably around December of last year, and we talked to everyone; all involved were comfortable with it. Going back to the present day, it turns out Donna only wants to come to the wedding because she wants to make sure my dad doesn’t cheat on her, and since she will be embarrassed telling her coworkers she wasn’t invited.”
“It feels like my dad keeps giving me updates on how she feels to try and wear me down and [get me to say] yes, but I think it would just create so much drama if she were there. I’m also afraid that since she isn’t going and causing this big of a tantrum over it, she would be constantly pestering my dad throughout the wedding.”
She has a wonderful bond with her dad, and she’s his only child. This is the only wedding her dad will get to walk someone down the aisle at.
She’s not positive if she’s just being irrational, but she’s concerned that Donna is going to try to pull something on her as they grow closer to the wedding.
She’s not changing her mind and inviting Donna. She’s wondering if she should ask her dad to put Donna in her place once and for all, or if she should try talking to Donna herself to get her to understand why she can’t come.
“She’s never mentioned anything to me the 3 times I’ve seen her, so I feel weird bringing it up,” she continued.
Ooh, Donna is already proving that she is super insecure, and that’s not a good look on anyone. She should not get involved, because Donna is her dad’s mess to clean up.
She should ask her dad to say something to Donna and tell him that she’s done discussing the matter. Donna, stay home, girl. Oh, and when she has that chat with her dad, she should also point out Donna’s red flags. He should be willing to listen if she has a good relationship with him.
What do you think she should do?
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