If you found out that your significant other unexpectedly had a baby with someone they slept with exactly once, would you still want to be with them?
This 26-year-old woman began dating her 28-year-old boyfriend last November, and on Sunday, their lives got thrown into a tailspin.
A girl reached out to her boyfriend on Instagram to say she had his baby, before asking him to pay child support and go through the whole court process.
“According to both of them, they only met once and slept together one time back in August, before we started dating. She told him that she found out she was pregnant in October and is 100% sure he is the father,” she explained.
“She has also said she’s willing to do a paternity test. My boyfriend says he had blocked her shortly after they met and had absolutely no idea about the pregnancy or baby until she reached out a few days ago.”
“I ended up messaging her myself because I was trying to understand everything. She told me she has only slept with him and that the baby is definitely his.”
She then requested that this girl send her screenshots proving that she reached out to her boyfriend as soon as she learned that she was pregnant, but she didn’t have that.
What’s bugging her is that if this girl was able to track down her boyfriend so many months later, what stopped her from doing that in October?
This girl actually told her that she didn’t do that because she figured she had been blocked. She still doesn’t get why this girl can’t give her evidence of attempting to reach out to her boyfriend in the past.
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“The thing is, I don’t even know what I’m feeling anymore. I’m angry. I’m jealous. I’m heartbroken. I keep crying and thinking about it constantly,” she continued.
“As selfish as it sounds, I don’t know if I can handle seeing him have a child with someone else. I know the child is innocent in all of this, but I can’t stop thinking that this was supposed to be us.”
“This weekend, we were literally talking about our future, what our kids’ names would be, what our life together would look like. Then two days later, this happens.”
She feels grateful that her boyfriend instantly told her about the news, but she does wish she had never found out since it’s so hurtful to her.
She really thought her boyfriend’s first child would be with her, and that she would be the one to make him a father. Should that other girl’s baby turn out to be her boyfriend’s, she will always feel bad that another woman got to have that milestone with him.
She realizes she is speaking a lot from fury and surprise. She’s not trying to pass judgment before receiving the results of the paternity test, but she can’t help but feel devastated.
She is so in love with her boyfriend that if this baby is his, she will be absolutely heartbroken.
I think that since this girl is so willing to do a paternity test, it most likely means this baby is totally her boyfriend’s. She’s getting a bit lost in the details here, because it doesn’t matter if that girl has receipts for reaching out to her boyfriend; all that matters is the results of the paternity test.
Once they get that back, they can decide on their next steps, and in the meantime, she should think long and hard about whether she can handle being a stepparent. I don’t believe she can, as she admitted she will forever feel jealous of the other girl and the baby.
It’s perfectly acceptable for her to walk away from her boyfriend if she can’t deal with him being a dad. There’s no shame in that.
What advice do you have for her?
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