There’s a lot that goes into the decision to use a donated embryo, and if that’s the route you pick to get pregnant, nobody is owed that information.
But what would you do if your sister got pregnant with a donated embryo, leaned into a story that wasn’t true, and broadcast it all over Instagram?
This woman’s 36-year-old sister and her 38-year-old husband spent years trying to have a baby without any success. Her sister then turned to IVF and a donated embryo, and then got pregnant.
Because her sister’s baby is from an embryo donation, that means her baby isn’t related to anyone in their family, but nobody knows this major secret except for her, her parents, and her sister’s husband’s parents.
“Their daughter has very fair skin. We are not white. She has blonde hair and blue eyes. My sister constantly posts on Instagram about how ‘genetics [are] wild. My miracle baby came with perfect genes from each side,'” she explained.
“She also says, ‘My miracle baby has blue eyes. People are so ignorant when they ask where it comes from.’ I am aware that it is technically possible for two brown-eyed parents with dark hair and skin to have a fair-skinned, blonde, blue-eyed child, but that is not the case here.”
“I texted her that her obsession with the baby’s appearance is gross. I told her it is gross that she sees those traits as perfection and that her claims about genetics are wrong because the baby is not genetically related to her.”
Her sister lost it on her and insisted her daughter is her own. Her mom thinks she was rude to her sister and took it too far by calling her out for essentially lying about where her baby came from.
She’s left wondering if her mom is right and if she shouldn’t have confronted her sister about what she’s saying on social media about her baby.
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I think she was abrasive in how she approached her sister, and didn’t handle her in the best way, but I understand her frustration here.
It is wrong for her sister to play it off like the baby is biologically hers while not being honest about where she came from. No, she doesn’t have to announce to the world on social media that she got a donated embryo, but it is weird for her to act like her baby is biologically hers when the baby isn’t.
Her sister could simply leave her captions about how perfect her baby is without lying on top of it, but obviously, her sister is going through something.
The kindest thing for her to do would be to gently suggest that her sister get therapy to cope with whatever it is she’s experiencing that makes her feel like she has to lie about her baby’s origins.
What do you think?
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