I’m not sure it’s possible to spend years with someone in a romantic capacity and not leave a piece of your heart with them after the relationship comes to an end. Do you think our exes carry fragments of our hearts along with them?
Two years ago, this man painfully learned that his wife was sleeping with her coworker. His wife’s affair partner was telling his wife that he wanted to be with her and planned on being a stepdad to their daughter, and there was a pile of evidence.
He never let on that he had proof, but of course, his wife ordered him to turn it over when he confronted her about the affair. His wife didn’t seem regretful, nor would she confess to cheating.
“That is what made me decide to file for divorce. If she showed she was sorry, I would’ve at least tried counseling first. [The] sad thing is, after all this, he was telling her, he’s made no major moves to commit,” he explained.
“As far as I know, he’s still married, and I know the wife still is co-owner of the house they have together. I don’t think my ex even knows she was played.”
“One thing I think contributed was that I was getting myself in shape, and she had gained some pretty good weight from working at home during Covid. I can’t be positive, but the guy she slept with is pretty overweight.”
After his marriage came to an end, he had some flings, but he is currently seeing a woman consistently. He’s not sure she’s going to end up a great match for him, but he’s not in a hurry to find another Mrs.
Recently, he and his ex spent time together at their daughter’s cheer competition, and they also went to some amusement parks. His father-in-law was there too, who is a wonderful man.
His father-in-law actually asked him about what happened between him and his ex-wife, and he stated he would prefer not to get into it.
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“I don’t think it’s my business to tell her family she cheated. So as I said, I’ve been doing great, focusing on improving myself, having some fun. But this week really kind of messed with my head,” he added.
“As we are all spending time together, old times came up, little references here and there. It all made me miss everything more than I realized.”
“It, for whatever reason, made it dawn on me that no matter how good a relationship I have with another, I’ll never be able to share the old memories of when the kids were little, we were happy, etc. The sad thing is, I KNOW, especially now, we could never be fixed; she still sees this guy all the time.”
He wishes it was possible to fix things with his ex, even though he’s aware that’s not ever going to be reality for him. She suffered from bad self-esteem throughout their marriage, always complaining about the number on the scale or how she did not look like a pretty girl.
He truly loved his wife for who she was, and he didn’t care about her weight or her looks. He would never, ever have cheated on her.
He went into their marriage thinking they would be with one another for their entire lives. And frankly, he’s still upset that’s not going to be the case.
“I guess this week made me realize that even after 2 years, there’s a part of me that is still very much in love with her. It blows my mind that someone can throw that away for someone who was clearly promising her the world while she was married,” he continued.
“Telling her what she wanted to hear so she’d let him in her pants. Now, 2 years later no attempt to advance the situation.”
When a relationship with someone you love comes to an end, it can easily feel like you have lost a piece of yourself in the process, and I think that’s what’s going on with him.
He’s feeling nostalgic and sentimental, and that’s ok. But he shouldn’t get that confused with leaving his heart open to giving his ex-wife a second chance, should she come back to him in the future.
It’s so sad to me that she took him for granted when he did have so much love for her, and some people never get to experience that in their lives.
Whenever he does find himself daydreaming about his ex and all of their good memories, he should make sure to replay all of the evidence in his head that he uncovered about the affair, just to keep himself in check and focus on moving on, because she’s no good for him.
What advice do you have for him?
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