Arranged marriages are just so alien to us Americans, but where this woman lives, it’s completely acceptable and not a strange thing to enter into at all.
Recently, a man asked her to marry him, and she was open to the arranged marriage because she was so over being assaulted or spoken to in a deplorable way when she used marriage and dating apps in secret.
She also felt lonely and isolated, so for all of those reasons, she instantly agreed. This man met her family, and they welcomed him with open arms.
She was also introduced to his loved ones, who were accepting of her. They came quite close to following through with the wedding, but something kept telling her to first clarify with him what he wanted in a wife.
“He said he expects me to cook, clean, take care of future kids, and provide financially. I was surprised because I thought, at least he would be the one to provide financially, if I was the one expected to do all the housework and childcare alone,” she explained.
“I told him I was not expecting this and asked if he’d at least be willing to help with cooking, cleaning, and future childcare since he expects me to be working too, and he responded as if I insulted him by even suggesting that, saying, ‘I’m the man. How dare you? If I’m going to cook and clean, then I might as well stay an unmarried bachelor, what would I need a wife for?'”
“And he also said ‘You’re brainwashed by western ideologies and feminism thinking it’s ok for a man to share household duties’ and even brought up his mother saying, ‘Well my mom did all of this, worked, cooked, cleaned, took care of us with zero help of a babysitter or maid, and never complained nor had the audacity to ask my dad to cook or clean or change diapers.'”
He argued with her that a woman handling all of the household responsibilities while also financially providing for a man is the new normal where they live.
He insisted that a woman has to provide for her family while caring for her husband, too, since that’s just her role. She ultimately called off the wedding and rejected him.
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But that hasn’t brought her any closure, and she’s still left feeling infuriated by this man’s expectations of her and women in general.
I’m laughing over how he asked why he needs a wife if she won’t do his bidding, because why would this poor girl need a husband if he can’t pull his weight?
I don’t care what anyone says, a marriage is a partnership, meaning each spouse should share responsibilities, and it’s unfair to think one person should carry the weight of another.
She’s lucky she found this all out before marrying this man. She really sidestepped a catastrophe.
What do you think about that?
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