Plenty of people wet the bed when they’re kids, but how would you feel if you were dating someone who still had this terrible habit?
This 19-year-old girl has been with her 23-year-old boyfriend for a bit more than half a year now. Her boyfriend has treated her like gold, but he does have a couple of flaws.
The first night her boyfriend slept over at her place, he never mentioned his condition to her and wet her bed.
“He freaked and cried and told me it was a condition and a lot of things that didn’t make sense. He kept going back and forth about how nothing worked; he’s in his twenties,” she explained.
Her boyfriend stated that he had been wetting the bed since back when he was eight, so she figured something bad had happened in his childhood.
“He has [wet] the bed almost every single night since, and if it was just his condition, he would have ways to resolve it. Unfortunately, he just sleeps in it.”
“He will wake up about an hour after and just put a towel under him, and if we have no towels, he will use the same towel he peed on to dry himself off with; that’s how my dad found out because he left it in the bathroom…”
Her boyfriend has no problem leaving his mess for her to clean up. She eventually stopped doing it in an effort to make him more responsible, but that backfired because he refused to pick up after himself.
One of her friends discovered her boyfriend’s bad habit and bought her a bunch of cleaning products, but that didn’t really help, because at that rate, her room already smelled like a public bathroom.
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She’s so sick and tired of how disgusting this is, and she has to live in it. When her dad found out about her boyfriend’s bed wetting, he freaked out.
“[He] forced him to buy diapers, otherwise he’d kick him out, and now has to replace a $4,000 mattress. My dad said he’s also [gone to the bathroom] all over the floor and walls in the bathroom in the middle of the night and left it,” she added.
“It’s gotten to a point where I don’t want to be around him, or in the room. He nags at me consistently, he’s always jealous, says he has ‘anxious attachment’ issues, doesn’t let me have the future I want to have, and wants to isolate me from the people I love because they don’t like him for his lies and laziness.”
Her boyfriend has terrible hygiene on top of his bed wetting, and she’s desperately been trying to stick with him throughout all of these problems.
Additionally, her boyfriend wakes her up crying at night, tries to go through her phone, and bombards her with messages when he’s afraid she just might walk away.
She’s not sure what to say or do anymore. She still cares about her boyfriend and wants what’s best for him, but she’s not positive that she loves him anymore.
This is so many levels of disgusting, and if she’s doubting her love for her boyfriend, it’s time to kick him to the curb. I couldn’t imagine putting up with this even if I did love someone dearly.
But since she has lost her love for her boyfriend along the way (and I don’t blame her), she needs to rid herself of the problem, which is him.
It would be different if he had a diagnosed medical condition and was at least making an effort, but none of that is the case here. She should waste no time dumping him.
What advice do you have for her?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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