It’s very normal for our exes to hold a special place in our hearts, regardless of whether we want to admit it or not. Your romantic connections absolutely shape who you are, and it’s hard to forget about the memories you made with them.
So, if you had the opportunity to hook up with your ex, even if they were no longer single, would you be interested in doing that?
This 36-year-old woman knows she messed up royally because she hooked up with her 37-year-old ex-husband not too long ago, and he is in a committed relationship.
They got divorced 6 years ago, separated 10 years ago, and share 2 kids with one another, who are in their teens. She and her ex got married quite young, quickly had their kids, and then their marriage fell apart, so they got separated.
“It was a rough divorce and custody battle. We both admitted we didn’t know what to do without each other since we had been together since high school,” she explained.
“But we did it, and 10 years down the road, we are here, kids are with me full time, he works a lot (7/week) and doesn’t see them, he lives with his GF (30F).”
Her ex rarely sees their kids, but he does still make an effort, so she can’t fault him for that. Additionally, he gives her financial assistance.
“He has always tried to stroke his ego with me, though, always tries little things to see if he can get my attention, and I finally caved!” she exclaimed
“I’m not in a relationship. I usually just keep one good friend around, but I don’t do relationships at the moment. I’m just too busy being a full-time mom, and I work full-time, and I volunteer for anything and everything for our kids, so I really don’t have time.”
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So, right before she hooked up with her ex, they wound up trauma dumping on each other. Things were said that should have been expressed years ago, but she thinks that she and her ex were just not mature enough to have those conversations.
She doesn’t believe that they ever got over one another, and that’s really why they hooked up. She does feel terrible, as her ex isn’t single at all, and she allowed herself to be the other woman, when she is quite vocal about cheaters and how bad that all is.
“I told my best friend, and she said, ‘Well, you’re his ex-wife and the mother of his only kids, so it’s different,’ but she is delusional lol! I know I’m the [jerk], but I want to post it out there and see what others say.”
Well, now I’m curious if she does want to win her ex back, since she said she hasn’t moved on and still has feelings for him. Anyway, she is definitely a jerk for letting that happen, and she really should tell her ex’s poor girlfriend.
What advice do you have for her?
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