If your best friend from childhood, whom you shared absolutely everything with, asked you out of the blue if you wanted to hook up with their husband, how would you feel?
This 29-year-old woman has a 28-year-old best friend, and she says this girl has been her ride or die since she was in the first grade.
They grew up with one another and have gone through it all together, even managing to survive their teen years, which every girl knows is quite a challenge.
“Over the past 6ish years, her life has been a lot more eventful than mine, and that’s okay. I’ve stood by and supported her,” she explained.
“She got married to a high school crush, got divorced right after, and is now remarried. Even through all of this, I’ve continued to have a close relationship with her, but it’s had more ups and downs as she’s gotten older.”
Yesterday, her best friend invited her to come over to her house, which isn’t unusual. She had a wonderful time, and they grilled in the backyard, played a couple of games, and hung out in a kiddie pool her friend set up.
It really was a casual, fun weekend, and in the evening, they got to watch some fireworks from her best friend’s backyard, because she had the perfect view of them.
When the fireworks were finished, she gathered up her belongings, got dressed more formally, and was about to leave when her best friend delivered a shocking invitation.
“…She said, ‘Hey, do you want to go upstairs with me and (husband’s name)?’ Also, none of us drinks, so it wasn’t a drunk comment,” she added.
“I didn’t exactly know what she intended, because I didn’t ask, but I think I picked up on it, and said, ‘Oh, no, I have to get going, it’s past my bedtime.’ And she was like, ‘Oh, okay, no worries, it was great hanging out.’ And then I left.”
“Obviously, not a lot of time has passed, and I haven’t spoken to her since last night at like 11:30 p.m. I’m totally lost with this, and I’m trying not to interpret this incorrectly, but I’m completely taken aback by this.”
She’s left wondering where to go from here.
Well, I guess there’s sharing Lisa Frank stickers and Lip Smacker lip balm with your best friend, and then there’s sharing a whole spouse with them. Her best friend took sharing from age 6 onward to an extreme!
Also, her best friend really did try to bring a whole new meaning to ride or die, didn’t she? I suppose her best friend thought that there really was no good way to have a conversation with her about joining in, or she thought it would be too awkward, so she just went ahead and asked the question. How bold.
I don’t blame her for not wanting to step out of the friend zone, because it is pretty weird to get that kind of an invitation from someone you think you know really well.
I believe she’s no longer going to feel comfortable hanging out alone with her best friend, let alone going over to her house knowing she (and/or her husband) has ulterior motives and a potential crush on her or something.
This would creep me out too much to continue a friendship, but if she values her bestie and can’t drop her, she should just ignore this and not bring it up unless her best friend does.
What advice do you have for her?
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