If you got engaged to someone who knew you were a package deal with your pets, then tried to force you to get rid of one, would you call off your wedding?
This 30-year-old woman recently moved in with her 27-year-old fiancé. Next Friday, they’re having their civil ceremony, and in August, they will be having a big wedding.
Ever since she began dating her fiancé, he has known about her pet cats. She used to have three black cats, but now she only has two, and she loves them tremendously.
Her older cat, Julius, is long-haired, and she has had him for five years. Her younger one is short-haired, Elena, and she has had her for three years.
Julius and Elena have seen her through some very tough times in her life, prior to meeting her fiancé, and they really mean everything to her.
As soon as her fiancé proposed to her, she reminded him that her cats would be living with them too. He was not happy about that, as he has never had a pet, and in his culture, pets in the house aren’t something that happens.
Their apartment for the next six months only has one bedroom, so she does get that there’s not a lot of room for the four of them in there.
Also, her fiancé hates that there’s cat hair all over their house, so she vacuums every two days or so to keep the mess to a minimum.
“Yesterday, my fiancé told me I have 4 days to ‘get rid of’ Julius. He said he did not care how I did it, and he offered to do it himself since he knows I’m very attached to Julius,” she explained.
“I told him I didn’t want to talk about it and that I want to keep both my cats. I told him that this is what I told him after we got engaged.”
“He cited the fur, cleanliness, and smell of the cats as reasons for wanting to get rid of them (again, I vacuum every two days and take out their litter from the closet once a day). I’m really distraught. We live together now.”
And by getting rid of Julius, she thinks her fiancé meant that he was going to drop him off at a shelter.
Her fiancé spent a lot of time at her place before their engagement, so he knew what he was getting into with her pet cats. He didn’t ever bring up the hair or the smell to her back then, which she finds odd.
Additionally, four months before their engagement, she brought Elena and Julius to her fiancé’s apartment and lived there for a month due to really bad snowstorms that hit their area.
She lived an hour away from him at the time, and her job was in the city where her fiancé lived, so staying there for four weeks in bad weather was the best thing to do.
Initially, her fiancé was hesitant about having her cats in his space, but in time, he came to really like her cats, especially Julius. Both her cats are perfectly behaved.
Elena is more clingy and will talk a lot, but Julius never says a peep and is a really good boy.
“I’m worried about what might happen if I put my foot down and say no. Is this engagement ending, or is this one of those sacrifices to be made in a marriage?” she wondered.
No, the love of your life will never make you sacrifice your pets. What is she thinking?! This is the easiest choice ever: she needs to pick her pets, not her fiancé.
It’s crazy to me that her fiancé is only trying to make her get rid of Julius now, after the wedding has been booked and he’s even lived with her cats. He knew what he was getting into.
I’m worried that her fiancé might rehome Julius behind her back or even leave the door to their apartment open and accidentally lose him.
She needs to get her cats out of the house ASAP and leave them with a family member or friend while she ends this engagement and calls off her wedding.
What advice do you have for her?
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