Would you stop at nothing to try to win back the love of your life after getting dumped, including investing the majority of your savings into the venture?
This man’s 27-year-old girlfriend dumped him as February came to an end, and he spent the first month and a half after that drowning in sadness.
However, he didn’t go to humiliating lengths to get her back; he just sent her several texts about wanting another chance and changing for the better in the hopes that it would convince her he was deserving of her.
She did say no and proceeded to block him, which caused him to pretty much spiral and go to insane lengths to try to get her attention.
Considering he could no longer contact her, he decided to send presents to her apartment for more than a month, sending them every two or three days at a time.
“Usually, it would be a Sephora gift, a really fancy bouquet, plushies, or something that I remember she liked in the relationship. She buzzed in the delivery driver for all of those gift deliveries, so I thought she was appreciating the gifts,” he explained.
“Sometimes, I would also send in hand-written/hand-drawn letters along with the gifts. I probably spent ~$3,000 on this. This lasted till mid-May when she unblocked and called me to tell me to stop the gifts, how they were ‘too cheap and annoying,’ and that if I really miss her, I should just send money to her bank account instead.”
“She also made a comment about how her family is really rich and that in a relationship, the guy should be spending more on their girlfriend (implying that I didn’t spend enough on her).”
His ex boasted that he had no clue how many men wanted her and that she had made a mistake giving him a chance at all. That made him feel like she was out of his league, and he really missed out on an incredible girl.
His feelings were deeply hurt, and he promised himself to quit sending money to her. Everyone in his life told him to stop doing that as well.
But a week later, he sent his ex $2,000 and a message about how he was happy to spend money on her if she wanted him to still do that.
He has kept on giving her money and has invested approximately $30,000 in that. She has not unblocked him, though. As all of this has been going on, at the end of April, he started seeing some psychics online, and he’s addicted.
“They tell me how she regrets the breakup, how she’s just being stubborn and is going to come back. Between April and now, I have spent almost $100,000 on psychics, and while not a single prediction has come true, I still continue to call them every day to check how my ex is feeling, and they continue telling me we will reconcile this summer,” he continued.
“The false hope feels nice in the moment until I realize how much I spent. Some of these psychics have the audacity to charge $25/minute because gullible people like me will pay for it…”
“That is $130,000 in total and was essentially over half my life savings. I have maxed out all my credit cards. I really, really regret this now and wish I spent this money on a nice car, a bunch of vacations, or literally anything else. What’s worse is that I cannot stop and still keep sending her money or wasting it on psychics…”
Well, I never knew you could be addicted to online psychics, but I guess you can be addicted to anything, and I can see how this has become a toxically validating cycle.
He really does need to start seeing a mental health professional to help him through this and to get him to stop spending his money like it’s going out of style.
I also worry that he has some self-esteem problems based on how he reacted to his ex trying to make it seem like she’s better than him, which he’s going to need to fix.
He also desperately needs to come to terms with the fact that his ex is not going to take him back, so he can start moving on and healing. There are so many girls out there, and he will find someone if he stops being hung up on his ex.
Additionally, maybe he can get his parents or other trusted family members to lock down his accounts and intervene so he can’t have a moment of weakness and spend more money on the online psychics.
That’s absolutely what I would do if I found myself addicted to spending money on something while trying to course correct.
What advice do you have for him?
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