There are so many reasons for people to cheat, but how would you feel if your spouse told you their infidelity was fueled by you not shaving your legs?
This woman can admit that she is fat, but it’s not like she’s bordering on obese. She and her husband have three kids, and she just doesn’t look like the 20-year-old girl her husband is cheating on her with.
“He told me himself, I had no idea. Then started talking about separation. No apologies (I guess he did say sorry, but he didn’t mean it), no remorse, no can we fight for our marriage,” she explained.
“Mostly blamed me for not shaving my legs and letting myself go. I told him that we can work it out. He was bewildered…[he] said he already cheated, we can’t work it out. I told him we can if we go to therapy and he stops chasing 20-year-olds.”
Her husband did want to know if she would forgive him, and she said that wouldn’t be possible without him making a serious effort.
Her husband replied that if she had been unfaithful, he would never be able to forgive her, so that makes him doubt that she will be able to one day get over the cheating.
Now, her husband had been cheated on previously, and he left that girl when he discovered what she had done. She always assumed that because of that, her husband was vehemently opposed to cheating.
However, that’s clearly not the case. She already has a therapist who has been helping her work through what her husband did to her.
“My depression is a reason I let myself go, but I never denied him…he was mostly not interested. He himself admits that there is no future with the 20-year-old, but he likes her and likes [being romantic with] her and wants to do that as long as possible,” she continued.
“The humiliation I feel is just so overpowering. He did tell me to shave my legs once, and I kinda blew up on him for being shallow. I feel regret now.”
It seems to me like her husband checked out of their marriage and wanted an excuse to blame her for that. Cheating is a choice. Her husband chose to cheat on her, and it really has nothing to do with her at all.
Her husband obviously doesn’t care about her since he came up with two ridiculous reasons to pursue a much younger girl, and it’s atrocious of him to say he doesn’t even want to stop seeing the other woman.
There’s really nothing left for her to do except file for divorce.
What advice do you have for her?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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