If your spouse made their love for you conditional and tied to your weight, would you be hesitant to stay married to them? Or would you get skinnier to make them happy?
This 31-year-old woman has a 46-year-old husband, and at the start of their relationship, she promised to lose weight for him, as she was already trying to do that for herself.
She didn’t think it would be that hard to drop some more pounds, as she was invested in getting healthier anyway. Prior to meeting her husband, she weighed 240.
But she was up to 295 when she began dating her husband, though she got down to 215. However, then she got pregnant, and she put back on all of the weight that she had lost.
She gave birth four months ago, and her husband has been badgering her about shedding the pounds. It’s like he doesn’t care that she just popped a baby out.
“He mentioned weight loss before pregnancy, which I adhered to, then during and now after pregnancy, he won’t stop nagging me about my weight, and now says that if I don’t lose weight, then he won’t be attracted to me anymore, and it will make or break our relationship,” she explained.
“He says that the reason he got with me was because he thought I was a good person, and if I lost weight, he could be attracted to me. I knew weight loss was a condition of our relationship, but I didn’t think it’d be the foundation on which our relationship relied.”
“It makes me think, ‘What about when I lose weight again, and it’s not enough for him? What about the next time I have another child, and I gain weight again, and it’s harder to lose weight than the last time?'”
She’s concerned that if she does have a second child and then gets older, her husband will be grossed out over her sagging skin and rolls, which are bound to happen.
She wished he was more worried about growing old with her than her appearance, but that’s not the case. After he threatened to divorce her if she doesn’t lose weight, she’s failing to see how they can move forward.
She really would like for her baby to have a family, but it’s alarming that her husband could leave her all alone as a single mom if he’s not happy with the number on the scale for her.
I’m really itching to know why she even married her husband in the first place, because he sounds pretty awful. He already made it clear to her before they tied the knot that he’s obsessed with her weight.
So, she knowingly signed up for this fate: having a husband who badgers her about how much she weighs. It breaks my heart that she’s putting up with this.
She should do herself an enormous favor and leave her husband before he does it to her, because it’s only a matter of time.
What advice do you have for her?
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