If you found out that the person you were engaged to was seeing someone else behind your back, would you call off the wedding?
This 24-year-old girl has been with her 25-year-old fiancé for a couple of years, and he proposed to her a few weeks ago. She said yes, despite the fact that they have been having some problems in their relationship.
Her fiancé has been speaking to her rudely during disagreements, which made her call him out to his family since she could no longer tolerate it.
Her fiancé’s family promised that they would talk to him, but then they said guys in their family just speak that way, so she had to accept it.
Several days after that fiasco, a girl reached out to her with some bad news.
“She told me she had been in a relationship with him for about two months. She had no idea I even existed because he introduced me as ‘just a friend,'” she explained.
“She sent me screenshots of their chats, call logs showing long phone calls (including a 41-minute call the same morning), videos he sent her while on his way to military service, and everything matched his phone number and timeline.”
“At that point, I decided the relationship was over. I didn’t even want to confront him because, for me, there is no explanation that justifies secretly dating another woman while planning an engagement with me. Since then, both families have been pressuring me to forgive him.”
Her family, as well as her fiancé’s family, has insisted that guys just make mistakes, she shouldn’t throw their love away, and that her fiancé obviously still loves her, so he should get a second chance.
Her fiancé’s family has been calling her nonstop, begging her to change her mind. They also wanted to see the evidence in her possession, as her fiancé has been denying that he’s a cheater.
She didn’t turn the proof over because she doesn’t want this to become a larger family drama than it already is. She just told her fiancé’s family she had made her decision and wished them all the best.
“Even my own family initially hoped I would calm down and change my mind. I understand they’re trying to save a relationship that lasted for years, but I feel like everyone is focusing on preserving the engagement instead of acknowledging what actually happened,” she continued.
“I haven’t insulted him, exposed him publicly, or tried to get revenge. I blocked him and just want to move on peacefully. So… [am I ther jek] for refusing to forgive him and ending the relationship, despite all the pressure from both families?”
What do you think?
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