If you were dating someone who told you that you weren’t spouse material, but they were still down to have kids with you, how would you feel?
This woman’s boyfriend talks about wanting to have kids with her all the time, and they have been dating for the last two years. They’re not the safest when it comes to pregnancy, by the way, and they frequently have to buy medication to prevent that from happening.
Lately, she’s been realizing it’s pretty backward of her boyfriend to bring up having kids with her, but not talk about making her his wife or wanting to marry her.
After a few days of this eating away at her, she eventually asked her boyfriend about it. She did make it clear that she wasn’t trying to force him to buy her an engagement ring or pressure him at all; she was simply curious to know the answer.
“Usually, you would want someone to be your wife and then have their children. He got really annoyed by this question and went on for about an hour, stating all of my flaws, all of my wrongdoings, to the point where I started crying, and he really just beat it down,” she explained.
“On top of that, I kept telling him, ‘Can’t you see I’m crying? I think you’re being pretty mean,’ and he just shrugged and continued on about how he’s considered leaving me in the past, and I’m lucky that he stayed with me.”
“I just got back from rehab, and he told me that most people would leave someone if they had to do that, so that I was lucky he stayed with me. He told me I had a god complex, which is absolutely absurd, and memory problems, and I left the conversation feeling incredibly small.”
Her boyfriend threw in there that perhaps in another two years he will propose, but only if he sees something substantial in her, and she has to show him she’s worth it. He wouldn’t let her get a word in edgewise, and she started sobbing even harder.
He stared at her as the tears rolled down her face, before leaving the room. She’s wondering if it’s time to leave her boyfriend. He’s away on vacation at the moment, and she pretty much just wants to pack up her things and never speak to him for as long as she lives.
She hopes her boyfriend isn’t wasting her time, and it’s not the proposal she’s upset about. She’s feeling horrible that her boyfriend ripped her apart and then watched her sob.
It’s absurd to me that he gave her a deadline of two years to prove herself as wife material. What a jerk. She absolutely should leave him and never look back because not only is he cruel, but he’s also unquestionably wasting her time.
Oh, and any man who brands a girl as not wife material is not someone worth having kids with.
Do you think she should leave him?
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