This 34-year-old man has been in a relationship with his 33-year-old fiancée for the last 4 years, and everything with them has been nothing but a rollercoaster.
They encounter ups, and they encounter downs. They fight a lot, but he can look back and say that they have had a ton of fun together in some moments too.
He’s supposed to be marrying her soon, but he really wants to call it all off, and he feels as if his “heart is in a million pieces” over this dilemma.
“I always promised myself that I wouldn’t ever be in a relationship where fighting and sadness controlled my life, but yet again, here I am because I love her,” he explained.
“Each fight puts me in a longer rut afterward. I’ve always been 50/50 on kids, and she ignores it because she thinks I’ll be an amazing father.”
“She’s ignored my desperate attempts to fix things she needed to until NOW because I’m finally at a point where I’m snapping, and I don’t know how to recover.”
For the last two evenings straight, his fiancée has started major fights with him, and over the course of the last 5 days, he can’t look at being with her in a positive light any longer.
He does feel guilty about wanting to end their relationship here, as he knows she’s going to fight back and argue that he can’t just walk away after spending 4 years of his life with her.
The problem is that it has taken his fiancée 4 years to even begin to understand what he needs, yet she refuses to do anything about that.
He’s exhausted, he’s at the end, and he doesn’t see how he can ever bounce back from feeling so hopeless about their relationship.
“I feel that I’m prepared to be hated by everyone,” he said. “Everyone in my family loves her, and while her family is extremely overbearing, and I’ve had a tough time with that, they care about me as well. They’re very obsessed with her, though. So I know in my heart I will be despised.”
“She’s probably the best thing to happen to me. But I can’t seem to remind myself of that anymore. I’m so sad inside. This is the most pain I’ve ever felt.”
“Thanks for listening. I know it’s all over the place. I apologize for that. Do I call off the wedding and end this? I’m convinced the next fight will just put me in a longer rut, further affecting my mental health.”
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
If true crime defines your free time, this is for you: join Chip Chick’s True Crime Tribe
In 2011, She Left For A Trip To Miami With Her Boyfriend And Never Returned Home
If You’re A Lover Of Anything Pink, This List Of Houseplants Will Make Your Day
Sign up for Chip Chick’s newsletter and get stories like this delivered to your inbox.
By Bre Avery Zacharski
Hi, I'm Bre, Chip Chick's CEO! I have a degree in Textile/Surface Design from The Fashion Institute of Technology, and... More about Bre Avery Zacharski
