Many women would agree that having drama with their mothers-in-law can be a really stressful thing to cope with.
One woman recently upset her mother-in-law after posting a picture from her and her husband’s wedding that she didn’t attend on Facebook and refusing to take it down against her wishes.
She’s 25 and married her 27-year-old husband, Joe, a few months ago. She and Joe have been together since high school and also dated throughout college. Therefore, they know a lot about each other and their families.
“Joe’s father died when we were seniors in high school, and his sister Jill died 3 years ago,” she explained.
“Since then, his mother, Jean, has been, in my opinion, unhinged. I cannot imagine her sense of loss, and I know everyone has their own grief process, so I really try not to judge, but she makes everything about her grief.”
For instance, Jean didn’t attend Joe’s college graduation because she was too upset knowing that she’d never see Jill graduate from college. Jean spends hours every Mother’s Day at the local cemetery and gets angry if she and Joe ever try to make her leave so they can spend time with her.
Before they got married, Jean would tell her and Joe that they had to name their firstborn after his late father and would get angry whenever they’d tell her they would choose whatever baby name they wanted.
Because of all this, Jean and Joe do not have a healthy relationship, and it’s been weighing heavy on Joe, as even though his mom hasn’t been there for him, she still relies on him emotionally and, sometimes, financially.
Things got worse as she started planning her and Joe’s wedding. She decided to invite Jean to go wedding dress shopping with her and some of her other friends and family and was surprised when she accepted the invitation.
“She came and brought a wedding gown that Jill had purchased to save for her own wedding someday,” she recalled.
“She said it would help her if I tried it on, and I did, which made her cry, but then she insisted that it was my dress and I didn’t need to get another one. After multiple refusals, she pouted the rest of the time. It was so awkward for everyone. This led to a lot of drama, to the point where Joe did not want her at the wedding because we couldn’t trust her to not cause some kind of scene.”
They also felt their wedding would be really triggering for Jean and, therefore, would affect her mental health, so they politely asked her not to attend, and she complied.
Despite the drama, they still had an excellent wedding, and during the reception, her mom surprised Joe with a ‘mother-groom’ dance and danced with him. It was a beautiful memory for everyone.
After the wedding, she posted a picture of Joe and her mom during their dance online and made it her Facebook cover photo.
Unfortunately, Jean saw the photo and quickly told her to take it down, telling her it was a reminder of how she was excluded from the wedding.
“I told her I’m not taking it down and that if she doesn’t want to see it, she can simply not look at my Facebook,” she added.
“She says I am inconsiderate of her feelings.”
Since she posted the photo, Jean’s been accusing her of trying to drive a wedge between her and her son.
Should she take down the photo or leave it up despite Jean’s drama?
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