If you found out that there was a secret affair child in your family, would you tell everyone about their existence, or continue keeping it hidden after the child’s father asked you to?
This 53-year-old woman’s oldest son is 33, and he has given her two granddaughters: a two-year-old and a ten-year-old. Her son was married for five years, but he got divorced six years ago.
Back in October, she got a strange message on Facebook from a woman who claimed she had an affair child with her son. She instantly drove to meet her in person and check out the validity of her story.
“She was married, as well as he, when this affair took place. She told her husband about a year later that his daughter wasn’t his. They divorced,” she explained.
“I never knew, I never heard anything about this granddaughter (now 8). I confronted my son about it, and he didn’t deny it. He said they had a deal, my son would go on with his life, and the other woman would go on with hers (and her husband would continue to think it was his daughter), until she told him.”
This woman only reached out to her on Facebook because her son’s affair child has been battling cancer since the age of four and is cancer-free at the moment, but her son’s affair partner was hoping to get some family history.
Now, her son isn’t interested in playing dad to his affair child. She outed her son to his 30-year-old fiancée, who was more upset that her son cheated on his ex-wife.
Her son’s fiancée doesn’t care about the girl her son had with this other woman. As for her son’s fiancée, she has a two-year-old daughter with him, and his ten-year-old daughter he had with his ex-wife.
She’s currently struggling with the fact that her son wants to keep his affair child a secret from his ex-wife, and she doesn’t find that fair, since the reason they divorced was because of her son’s infidelity.
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“He says he doesn’t want to hurt her more than he already has. I just met my ‘new’ granddaughter a few days ago. She doesn’t know the connection yet. She’s a sweet little girl who’s been through a lot in life already,” she added.
“I want my son to tell his ex-wife and his 10-year-old daughter, separately. Yes, it’ll hurt his ex-wife, but we’re all adults. I want my new to me 8-year-old granddaughter to meet her 10-year-old sister, while they’re both young.”
“I’m not doing this for anyone else but these innocent little girls… well, yeah, of course, for my wants, but their needs.”
Oh, and she did do a grandparent DNA test, so this eight-year-old girl is indeed her son’s daughter. As for the affair partner of her son, this woman is wealthy and got married again, so it’s not like she told her about the affair child to get money out of their family.
She’s so stressed out about this entire situation, and she desperately wants her granddaughter to be included in their family, but her son is livid about that.
So, her plan is to still tell her son’s ex-wife and his oldest daughter about the little girl, even though that goes against his wishes.
It does come across to me like her son isn’t interested in facing the consequences of his choices, so if she informs his ex-wife of the affair, that will force him to face the music.
Also, maybe he will quit being a cheater once he has to deal with the daughter he had with his affair partner. I think her son’s ex-wife will find it reassuring that she made the right decision to leave him over the cheating, since he obviously was actively doing that behind her back, and maybe she didn’t have enough evidence at the time.
And finally, I find it alarming that her son’s fiancée isn’t upset with him for failing to step up and be a dad to his affair child, but that’s not something that can be changed.
What advice do you have for her?
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