How do you look your sister in the eye when you fundamentally don’t respect the person she’s become, or the person she’s with? After watching her sibling blow up a long-standing relationship for a 21-year-old guy she encountered at a bar, she no longer thinks her sister deserves her loyalty.
This woman’s sister used to be in a serious relationship, as she was with her ex for 12 years, but she threw it all away for some random guy she ran into at a bar one evening.
She was extremely close to her sister’s ex, as he had known her since she was only 13, and she grew to view him as her brother because they had that kind of a bond.
“He became a part of our family throughout all those years, and my sister kept telling me she wanted to cheat with this guy that we met one night out at a bar who approached her,” she explained.
“This guy was 21 at the time, and she was 31. This alone creeped me out because he was younger than [her and me]. Not only was I conflicted because I had so much love for her long-term boyfriend and wanted to tell him he was about to get cheated on, but this is my sister, and I felt I needed to be loyal to her.”
“Keep in mind the guy she cheated with was made aware that she was in a long-term relationship, but still pursued her anyway, which makes me think he doesn’t respect other people’s relationships. The truth came out after she cheated and she broke her partner’s heart, moved out of the apartment they lived in together, and is STILL with the guy she cheated with, 2 YEARS later.”
Oh, and it’s interesting that the guy her sister met at the bar has since tried to dump her twice after kicking off their relationship, but her sister has convinced him otherwise and is still hanging onto him.
Her sister is unhappy that not a single member of their family has made an effort to get to know her new man. But the reality is, they’re all mad at her sister for what she did.
As for her, she can’t understand why her sister acted in such a cruel way. Also, she’s still loyal to her sister’s ex, as he was like a family member to her.
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Speaking of loyalty, that’s a quality she values above all else, and her sister’s cheating was heartless and gross. She’s left wondering if she’s wrong to refuse to accept or approve of her sister’s new boyfriend, given how their romance got started.
“Should I just forget my values and try to make amends with this?” she wondered.
Her sister unquestionably failed to act like an adult, as she should have ended things with her ex prior to beginning something new with the boy from the bar.
It’s too late for her sister to do anything to fix that, and no, I don’t think she’s wrong for wanting to stay out of the mess her sister made.
She doesn’t have to spend time around her sister or her boyfriend, and that’s all there is to it. Sounds like her sister’s new love won’t last much longer anyway, so it’s not worth even trying to get along with her trashy boyfriend.
What advice do you have for her?
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