Imagine your spouse packed a suitcase, checked into a flight, and spent three days in another state just to come home and claim it was all for a kiss from their affair partner. Please. Nobody is wasting their time like that just to get a peck.
This woman has been with her husband for 13 years, and they tied the knot 7 years ago. Sadly, a month back, she discovered that her husband was cheating on her with his friend, who he’s been close to since high school, and this girl doesn’t live in their state.
Within the recent past, her husband announced that he was taking a solo vacation, and she didn’t find it suspicious. But after he flew back home, she found out that he had lied!
He wasn’t on vacation; he intentionally hopped on a plane to see this girl! She confronted him, and he denied that he had gone to see his friend.
She had a copy of his flight itinerary, proving he had, so she gave it to him. Only after seeing the proof did he confess to what he did.
“He claims they’ve been ‘text cheating’ for 6 months and that this was their first physical meeting. He insists that during those three days, they only kissed and didn’t sleep together,” she explained.
“When I asked him to text her to end the relationship immediately, he resisted, saying he wanted to give her a ‘proper goodbye’ because she is the last friend [he had actually had a connection with].”
“He didn’t actually send the message until the following morning. In the text, he told her that I found out about the trip and that he chose to stay with me. The worst part is that she is married and in an open marriage. To make it even more painful, I actually met her a few times about six years ago when she visited our area.”
She hasn’t said a word about her husband’s infidelity to her family members or friends, and she generously worked to forgive her husband.
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But the more time elapses, the angrier she grows, and now it’s completely swallowing her up. When her husband has his phone in his hand, she worries he could be speaking to his affair partner.
She asks herself nonstop whether she can ever regain trust in her husband, or if she should even bother to save their marriage and put the work in to reconcile.
“To make matters worse, before I found out about the affair, we agreed to move to his home state later this year to be near his family. That woman lives in that same state, very close to where we’d be moving,” she continued.
“I’m 38, and we don’t have [a] child yet. I am terrified. If I choose divorce, I’m scared I’ll never find someone treated me well and that I’ll end up alone and lonely for the rest of my life.”
“How am I supposed to believe he ‘only kissed’ her after flying all that way for a 3-day trip? Should I go through with the move? How do I handle this crushing anxiety and fear of the future? Any advice or perspective would be appreciated.”
It sounds to me like her husband is trickle truthing her, which means he’s slowly releasing information on his affair in order to do damage control.
Because there’s no way he flew all the way to see his affair partner and only made out with the girl. I don’t buy that. And the fact that her husband’s affair partner is in an open marriage, I’m afraid, underscores that they went all the way.
Maybe she can make contact with her husband’s affair partner’s husband to see if he knows what went down. She has every right to be furious, and I think they’re headed for a divorce.
Her husband didn’t suffer any consequences, so why would he learn his lesson?
What do you think?
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