If you went on a date with someone who took you to the exact spot they brought your friend to a year earlier, would it give you the ick and make you not want to go on a second date with them?
This 28-year-old man absolutely has a preferred first date spot to take girls to, and it’s a wine bar located close to his apartment. It’s not lavish or upscale or fancy by any means, but the lighting is great, it has a cozy vibe, it’s never too loud in there, so it’s easy to chat with a date, and if things get weird, it’s not difficult to leave after one drink.
“[The] date went well, we stayed almost 3 hours and kissed at the end. Yesterday we were texting about a second date, and she jokingly said: ‘So is that your first date headquarters or did I get the VIP tour?’ I laughed it off, but she said one of her friends had also gone there with me, like a year ago,” he explained.
“Nothing happened with the friend past one date; I barely remembered until she said the name. Now the vibe feels a little weird. She said she still wants to go out again, but added, ‘Maybe somewhere you don’t take everyone, lol.'”
“I get why it sounds bad, but I wasn’t trying to be a player or anything. I just like having a place where I know parking is easy, drinks are decent, and I don’t want to blow my money on random expensive places on first dates.”
He’s left wondering if it’s, well, gross of him to have a fist date spot where he takes every single girl he asks out. He’s also curious if he should have a real conversation about this after getting called out, or find a second place for the next date and let it go.
I do find it strange that she knows he went to the same spot on a date with her friend last year, but I don’t think it’s weird that he has a preferred first date place. It makes sense to want to be in a spot where you feel comfortable while getting to know someone.
I really want to know if this girl knew about that date with her friend before going out with him, or if it came up while she was filling her friend in on their date.
It does come across like this girl is put off by the wine bar and the fact that he went out with her friend. I don’t think he’s overthinking anything, and she definitely does view the whole thing as icky.
That would make me not want to go out on a second date with her if I were him.
What do you think?
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