Having a secret second family without immediately getting caught almost sounds too outrageous to be real. But it does happen. TikToker @lovethyselfmost was engaged to a man who was living a double life.
She believed they were building a future together and planning out their lives, but what she didn’t know was that he was making the same promises to someone else.
“We’re not just talking hookups here and there,” she said. “We’re talking about having a wife and having me as a fiancée, having a home with a mortgage in one place and having a home with a mortgage in another place and actually living a dual life.”
At the time, he had a job that required him to fly out of town. Sometimes, he would be gone for two weeks or more. It turned out that his wife lived only an hour and a half away from @lovethyselfmost.
The first time he stayed with @lovethyselfmost for a month, his then-wife wasn’t overly concerned about his absence because he had told her that he was in a third-world country.
However, he was really with @lovethyselfmost in the United States Virgin Islands on a travel contract for her job.
About eight months in, they decided to buy a house and move in together. Before that, they lived about three and a half to four hours from each other, so they would meet in the middle on weekends.
After they moved in together, they spent some weekends apart. She would go to Delaware to see her dad, and her fiancé would go home to see his wife.
“I had no idea where he was,” said @lovethyselfmost. “I just thought he was home. He also used to stage pictures and stage the house so that he made it look like he was home, but he would do it after I left and before he would leave.”
He got away with only spending weekends with his wife because he told her that he was doing a project for work. Since he lived an hour and a half away from work, he claimed that he was staying with a colleague during the week.
He would also send both women the same picture and message at almost the same time. When his wife inquired about mortgage paperwork that came to their house or email, he lied and told her that it was for refinancing their home. In reality, it was because he had bought an additional house.
Many TikTok users took to the comments section to share similar stories, showing just how common these types of situations can be.
“My boyfriend can’t even maintain two conversations at the same time. This is nuts,” commented one user.
“My uncle was married to someone for 20 years who also had a double life. We only found out after she passed at her other home, and her daughters found out she had a double life and looked for us. She had a husband and kids. We never knew,” shared another.
“Happened to me! I was the wife! Went on for seven years before I found out the truth. I had three kids, and they had one. The depth of lies is actually insane. I’m still recovering six years later,” added a third.
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By Emily Chan
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