If you discovered that your dad cheated on your mom and had an affair child, would you want to get to know your half-sibling?
This 19-year-old man found out not too long ago that his 50-year-old dad cheated on his late mom and had an affair child. His mom passed away last year, and his dad’s affair child is around 3-years-old.
His dad knew this little girl existed, and apparently, his dad’s mistress is pregnant with his second kid, and they’re trying to work things out.
His paternal side of the family talked to his dad, who said they were not allowed to meet his affair child, but apparently, he has permission. It seemed to them that his dad was under the influence when he said this over the phone.
His dad’s family members relayed the information to him, and he stated that he’s not interested in connecting with the little girl or the baby on the way.
His dad’s loved ones wanted to know why, and he said he just wants nothing to do with this mess or these kids. His dad’s family doesn’t like that he doesn’t care to know his half-siblings.
He is additionally concerned that if things get bad with his dad, his dad’s family somehow expects him to step up and raise the kids one day.
“They also point out that the kids are innocent, and again, I’m aware, but it changes nothing for me. Some of my cousins have been put in an awkward place because they’re not pushing the issue with me,” he explained.
“Some also have half-siblings they don’t give [care] about, so they get it. They even pointed out their parents’ hypocrisy, but my paternal side only cares because this is their granddaughter/niece and future grandchild/sibling.”
“I’m not sure how much worse this will get or if they’ll eventually get over it. I’m lucky to have my maternal family by my side still, and they were disgusted by the news as well. It actually had all four of my grandparents arguing when we first found out and again when I made my stance clear.”
He’s left wondering what he should do, considering his dad’s family is mad at him.
He needs to just say again to his dad’s family that this is not his circus and not his monkeys. It’s perfectly acceptable for him to want nothing to do with his half-siblings, and they’re not his responsibility at all.
It might even be helpful to warn his dad’s family that if they keep treating him like this, they’re only pushing him further away. If that doesn’t work, he can always block them for his peace of mind.
What advice do you have for him?
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