She Told Her Friend It’s Gross For Her To Be Dating A Guy A Decade Older Than Them
When you think about the people in your life and what boundaries need to be set for the relationship to be sustainable, we often overlook the ones we are closest to.
While boundaries are essential when it comes to relationships with your significant other, they are also vital when it comes to your best friends.
Strong friendships mean the world to most of us, so setting boundaries can often be uncomfortable.
However, friendships that do not have the best communication and constantly cross the line when advising on your relationship can be detrimental.
Our friends have strong opinions on who we decide to date and who we have a relationship with. In a sense, they have become more than just friends to us.
Depending on how long you have been friends, we often look at them as family members, which may make them a bit more protective when addressing our current relationships.
Of course, we want our friends to love the person we are seeing, but what if they disapprove?
Especially when there is a giant age gap between the couple?
Two girls met in college and instantly clicked. Since then, they have become more like sisters, stay in touch and see each other quite often. Now they are 26 and 27; one of them has a boyfriend, and the other does not approve of him.
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This single young woman’s friend never really dated. Until last year, her friend met her current boyfriend, who is 36. He’s really sweet, and a good guy, but she cannot look past the age gap.
She even states, “A 10 year age gap when the youngest is 26??? In 4 years, this guy will be 40! His own best friend is already in his 40s, with a wife and kids.”
Instead of allowing her friend to be happy, she confronted her by saying the situation was gross and inappropriate.
Being super judgmental, she goes on and on about how this guy has no wife and kids and is 36 and how there must be a reason why he doesn’t act his age.
She is also convinced that age gaps can be toxic and dangerous.
She decided to have this conversation in person, and her friend left angry. Since then, they have had a few heated words over text.
Age gaps can be pretty intimidating to our friends. However, at that point, you have probably found someone who you genuinely love and while their advice is welcomed, crossing the line with their opinions is not.
Should her friend ultimately listen to her and leave the guy just because he’s 10 years older?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
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