Now That She Has Moved On From Her Ex-Boyfriend, He Wants To Marry Her
A 22-year-old woman used to be in a relationship with a guy the same age as her named Paul. She dated Paul for a year and a half, but she has known him for longer than that.
Paul’s pretty selfish. He’s incredibly immature. He wasn’t ever ready to really commit to her.
Despite all of the negative things about Paul, she really thinks her time spent with him was a highlight in her life.
“I loved him (I still do!) and I wanted to properly date him, but he wanted to keep the relationship more casual and open,” she explained.
It was really important to Paul to leave their relationship open so that he could choose to see other women, even though he never went through with that. It’s like he just cared to have other options available to him.
A few months ago, she met a man named John, and Paul gave her permission to see him too since you know, things with him were not that serious.
She figured it would be fun to see what John was like, and then she started having feelings for him.
She did reveal to Paul that she was starting to fall in love with John, and Paul told her that she had to pick between the two of them.
Suddenly, Paul said he wanted to be more serious and no longer just see other people.
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“John is better at communicating how he feels and treated me very kindly, and Paul didn’t seem like a man I could eventually settle down with so after a lot of thinking and talking with friends, I chose to be with John,” she said.
Well, it’s been 3 months since she picked John over Paul, and she’s happy with the choice that she made.
A week ago though, Paul came crawling back to her.
“…Last week I was told by Paul that he made a mistake, that he doesn’t like how we broke up and that he now understands that he wants to be with me forever, so he wants to properly date me and afterward, marry,” she continued.
“For me, marriage is incredibly important and I would like to settle down soon. Knowing Paul, he was not the kind of person that wanted to marry, so hearing those words from him made my heart flutter.”
“I also love John. He is caring, goes to great lengths for me, and always thinks about my feelings and necessities.”
“Although it’s too early for him to promise it, he also wants to marry. Thinking about it objectively, John is the best choice for my future, but I am worried about ignoring this strong feeling that I have now for Paul.”
“There seems to be no wrong choice here and I just don’t know what to do.”
Do you think she should stay with John, or leave him for Paul?
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